(Closed) No friends…

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 47
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Ok, It’s about qaulity not quantity and its also who you care about it and who cares about you.

I have a huge group of friends and although I am in a different situation I can’t help but stress that your wedding will be amazing!  One of my very close friends only has me and one other friends and thats her and how she likes it. She can’t keep up with lots of friends and likes it the way it is. It doesn’t mean anyone is better or more popular than the other. It’s just who we are. 

I hope this is coming out right!

Your amazing friends and family will be there. 

Post # 49
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241 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2004

@Miarose:  Contrary to popular belief, life isn’t one big popularity contest and success is not necessarily measured by the amount of friends one has.  Obviously every situation is different, but if your life is rich and fulfilled without masses of friends, it is not something you should worry about. Only IF And this is a big if, it bothers you or you feel that it interferes withyour happiness then I would consider doing something about it! 

Post # 51
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347 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

i was just waiting for some of the extroverted bees to chime in here and give us some ‘its not a popularity contest, or ‘be greatful with what you have’ crap

its easy for someone who is on the opposite side to say this, unless you are in that position you wouldnt know the emotions and lack of social fullfilment a bee with little or no friends has. it is only magnified to an even greater level when you are planning big important events, such as a wedding!

 

Post # 52
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241 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2004

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@Miarose:  Oh no, I am sorry!!! I did not mean to offend, English is my second language so maybe I did not express myself properly. I meant that I understand where you are coming from. As someone who is an introvert with a limited amount of good friends that I trust, I am faced with many instances where I am questioned about my social well being. More often than not this will be from more extroverted aquantences who think that my life is somehow lacking. So, I have come to realise that this is in fact how some people measure their happiness or success or even what they require to be happy or satisfied. This is not wrong, but it is not for everyone.  I am content with my limited base of close friends, but I also can see that some people are different and require more. Probably keeping the world in balance.  So please forgive me if my earlier post seemed to criticise, this was absolutely not the intention. Personally, I think things like facebook can be toxic sometimes, for instance. Over here I find that people use it as a tool to measure their popularity! Which seems so ridiculous!! Why would one want to have over 200 fb friends, but if you walk past 90 percent of them in a real life situation they will ignore you or even pretend not to know you.  That honestly happens quite a lot where I live and I actually have two colleagues who become depressed if they see someone on facebook has unfriended them and they even compete as to have the most friends.  People you carry in your heart are truly who matters.

Post # 53
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241 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2004

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@txbella:  Hi there, I want to apologize to you as well if I have offended. I was trying to show I am identifying, even though it may seem the majority of the world has a gazillion friends, I truly think that is not really the case.  Weddings are about being surrounded by the people you love and people who love you back and it is not about the numbers or the type of relationship, necessarily, but about the importance of these people in your lives.  I do, however, think it is sad if you do feel a lack of social fulfillment…. Because if that is the case one needs to seek what will uktimately provide happiness and fulfillment.  It is okay to not have hundreds of friends at your wedding. As long as the important peopke who feauture in your everyday life is there.  So, once again apologies if I rubbed you up the wrong way, because it was not intended as a snub.

Post # 58
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2004

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@Miarose:  I think even an extrovert will struggle with twelve hour midnight sHifts!! What type of work do you do?

Post # 60
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t feel quite so alone anymore. I’m shy and quiet. I moved to a different state and left all my friends behind. I only have 2 really good ones here. I normally meet friends through work, but I work in a tiny office, so there’s only so many people. Fiance doesn’t many have close friends, but it doesn’t seem to bother him. He has a large group of people he can hang out with if he wants. I met one of his college friends and LOVED talking to his wife, but she lives 2 hours away 🙁 I feel like a loser, now that I’m not in school, I have no idea where to make new friends.

Post # 61
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241 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2004

Oh my word!!! That is so super fascinating!!! What is your area of speciality??? 

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