(Closed) No friends. No bachelorette

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
6005 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

kittwn:  Awww, try not to feel too badly. It’s really hard when you move somewhere and don’t know anyone. Can you possibly do a little something with girlfriends after the baptism party? A bachelorette party is really no biggie, though, if you don’t have one. The important thing is you have your family and friends around and you are getting married! Woot!!

Post # 3
235 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

kittwn:  I don’t really have advice, but I’m sorry you’re feeling embarrassed. I don’t think you should feel embarrassed though, you really only need a couple close friends and relatives in your adult life and obviously you moved a huge distance, so it’s hard to keep/make friends after that.

It unfortunately sounds like one of those times where you have be an adult and suck it up for your daughter’s sake. Try to enjoy whatever bachlorette party you can and remember that soon you will be married to the love of your life and the bachlorette won’t seem so important.

Post # 5
1247 posts
Bumble bee

kittwn:  Hopefully you will still be able to enjoy yourself.  It is really hard feeling friendless or that your friends are all far away. Fortunately you will still get to see them before the wedding. Try to focus on the positive.  Things may still work out.

Post # 6
1332 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

kittwn:  Im sorry this is making you feel sad.  I guess I will try to sway it from a brighter side, to hopefully try to make you feel better about the situation.  First, although the timeline is not ideal, you do have people that are willing to throw you a little something special, with female family/friends, even if it is not a HUGE group of people.  Second,  bachelorette parties, although their traditions/meanings vary from culture to culture, can be a stressful event in its planning/execution for many brides-to-be, so at least you will miss that fiasco (seriously, read thru boards here about it!!).  Third, I think the whole thing can be overrated…the idea that you are going out ONE LAST TIME with your gal pals before marriage is really quite ‘wrong’.  I know that after marriage I will continue to plan, and have fun, on my girls days/nights.  Sure, it will not be ‘all about me’, nor will I wear a crown or sash, but it will still be pretty darn fun 🙂  Fourth, I just had mine this past weekend.  Although my group was a nice size, because I live in the same city with friends and family(!!!), it was really low key.  Nice dinner, followed by cocktails, followed by bed.  No ‘flare’, no ‘craziness’.  That may not be others idea of fun, and although various events are still OK, I know it was perfect for me.  And, your evening out on that Thursday might be perfect enough for you!!  

I think you feel will miss out on something ‘bigger’, and that is not necessarily the case, is my point.  So instead of feeling embarrassed, embrace the potential lack of headaches you are possibly going to miss 🙂  Good luck!

Post # 7
2258 posts
Buzzing bee

Aww. ::Hugs:: First off, your daughter is absolutely adorable (I’m assuming that’s her in your avatar pic)! Second, I’m sorry. That’s a hard situation to be in and feel right before your wedding. I had a very small wedding with no bachelorette party before hand–just a nice, intimate bridal tea and it was awesome! Perhaps you and your friends could go out for somethng like that or nice lunch and spa-day? It stinks not to be able to celebrate in the traditional way you’d like to, but in the scheme of things, you’ve got so much more to focus on. Don’t feel sad or embarrassed! Enjoy the festivities and traditions you can celebrate that week (like your daughter’s baptism). Congrats on your upcoming wedding and hopefully you’ll be able to do a little something to make you feel special–even if it’s not an all-day affair! 🙂

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