(Closed) No gift?

posted 6 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: What percentage of your wedding guests did not bring/send a gift or card for your wedding?
    0-10% : (32 votes)
    46 %
    10-15% : (15 votes)
    21 %
    15-20% : (5 votes)
    7 %
    20-25% : (5 votes)
    7 %
    25-30% : (0 votes)
    More than 30% : (9 votes)
    13 %
    We requested that guests not give gifts. : (4 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
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    3375 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Almost one year out- the only ones who didn’t give us gifts were our siblings. I guess we’re pretty lucky!

    Post # 4
    Member
    5428 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I haven’t thought about it, but if they give one that’s fine, and if they don’t, that’s fine too! We have everything we need anyways…

    Post # 5
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    215 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I have no idea honestly. I didnt make a checklist or anything. 

    Post # 6
    Hostess
    1427 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    We are only missing gifts from one groomsmen but I figured that since he stood up with us for the wedding he gets a “by.” 😉

     

    Post # 8
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    3471 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

    In this economy it’s becoming more and more common for people to send/give smaller or no gift at all.  This has ben a trend over the last  5-7 years or so.  

    At our wedding we had about 27% of our guests not bring anything, and honestly I was surprised this # wasn’t higher. Many of our guests were younger couples, or people who I know have had economic issues in the recent past.  

    Post # 9
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    3375 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    OP, just wait!! I had a bunch come in after the wedding until the 3 month mark.

    Post # 10
    Member
    3625 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I’m honestly surprised by people who don’t gift anything at all. I remember when I was in school, working in retail (with crappy pay) and living on my own, and I still managed to give gifts (anywhere from $30-70) for the weddings I attended. If I didn’t give my own gift, I went in on something with a bunch of people so we could get something really nice. I was raised to always bring something decent and never to show up anywhere empty-handed, so even if it meant skimping on things for me and saving (and waiting for a good sale), I will always bring a gift. At the very least, I would do a $10 bottle of wine and a card.

    Post # 11
    Member
    2999 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @Ms. Kitty:  As a Clevelander, I’d say its more of the economy hitting your loved ones.

    Post # 13
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    3572 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Out of 105 people, 6 did not bring a gift or card.  Incidentally, all of these people came separately from Brooklyn.  Maybe it’s the cool thing now?  One of the people who brought no gift was a bridesmaid, which infuriated me because between her dress, hair, makeup, and gift I spent over $700 and she couldn’t even write me a card.

    Post # 14
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    3082 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    @lilbluebird:  Yea that’s what I did too. My parents always taught me to never show up somewhere empty handed. Even if it’s small, it’s the thought. And IMO it’s really rude if they can’t even spend $0.99 on a card. 

    Post # 15
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    10 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @Ms. Kitty: We entered gifts next to guests’ addresses in the spreadsheet to help us write thank you notes, and I noticed that just over half of our guests didn’t give gifts.  The small number of gifts helped us get all our thank you notes out within 2 weeks of our wedding, even with an intercity move, and that felt like a great accomplishment. 

    It was a good feeling to move to a new place where we have few friends and no social life with gifts from old friends and our old city. Guests spend a lot to go to weddings, and gifts aren’t required, but it would be nice to have little things to remind us of people, even a $10 whisk. 

    Post # 16
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    506 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @lilbluebird:  We did this my senior year of college. We were all just broke college kids who legitimately would go days on ramen or grits when the power bill came. A group of four of us, each put in $50 to get the groom items off the registry that were clearly for him. Then my parents gave my now Fi and I some money to get him a nice whiskey reserve, simply because they knew we were all scraping this seemingly measly $200 together and they wanted to help. 🙂

    It isn’t required, but in my super traditional southern culture-you don’t even return a baking dish someone leaves at your house without a note/treat. 

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