(Closed) No Gift List/Registry

posted 4 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull

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strawbeeblonde :  I would interpret it as “you don’t have to buy us anything, but if you want to you can”

In this instance, I’d usually ask them if there’s a shop they’d like vouchers to or anything. We usually get John Lewis vouchers for them otherwise 🙂

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Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

I would give a cash gift, this is what we normally do anyway (Ireland).

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - Sussex, UK

We didn’t put any info and got so many messages asking us, I wish we had. When people asked what we wanted we told them we had everything we needed and just to bring themselves. We got cash, gift cards, a few photo frames and some wine glasses. If there is no registry info we normally give cash.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I’d say they’d like cash or people to buy whatever they like. Feel free to ask them though. 

I only had one friend who did this and they genuinely wanted to see what people got them and for guests to feel free to make their own choice. They ended up with about 60 champagne flutes… 

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Have you googled them to see if there’s a registry?  Any mention of gifts on an invitation is considered inappropriate, so that’s probably why there’s nothing there.  If you googled them and there’s no registry popping up, I’d just give cash (which is my standard wedding gift anyway).

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - Sussex, UK

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JiminyCricket :  As it’s a UK wedding it is fine to mention gifts with the invitation. I think I’ve only been to two weddings where there was no mention of gifts.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

According to most threads on here, if you want cash, you shouldn’t ask for it, but just don’t have a registry and people will assume!!

we didn’t have a registry (also in the uk) because we were living in a tiny flat overseas at the time. Family members who asked my mum were pointed in the direction of a very cool furniture and kitchen shop with gift vouchers that never expire, and other people gave us cash or chose/made us gifts. We got a good balance. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

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EllyAnne :  its really not, just because your friends are rude does not make it ‘acceptable’ in the UK… seriously stop giving out completely wrong etiquette advice, it is never ok to throw a party and expect/ask/demand gifts under any circumstance including weddings in UK history and culture

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

Give cash. 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I would interperate it as meaning they want cash and not stuff. 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - Sussex, UK

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btob17 :  The ray of sunshine again. Yes my friends are all rude and evil people! I fail to believe that if you’ve been to say 20 weddings in the last year few years you haven’t had at least a few invites that gave registry info. It makes it easier for the guest rather than having to hunt it down. UK etiquette has changed around this. There is a lot of info on UK wedding websites. One of the more trusted ones below. I’m going to suggest you block me as you always seem to want to argue.

Debrett’s <em style=”color: #000000; font-family: ‘Helvetica Neue’; font-size: 16px; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-weight: 300; letter-spacing: normal; orphans: 2; text-align: start; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; background-color: #ffffff;”>Wedding Guide editor Jo Bryant says: “Asking for money on your gift list is now commonplace, but it should be handled <em style=”color: #000000; font-family: ‘Helvetica Neue’; font-size: 16px; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-weight: 300; letter-spacing: normal; orphans: 2; text-align: start; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; background-color: #ffffff;”>carefully…Guest must feel as if they are giving money towards something worthwhile. Many travel agents allow guests to put money towards a couple’s dream honeymoon, and some offer lists of ‘experiences’ they can buy, such as a romantic meal.”

Another slightly less reputable one but one that I feel is accurate:

http://www.confetti.co.uk/other-articles/wedding-gift-list-wording

 

 

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper

They are correct in not mentioning gifts on the invitation. 

 

If they have a wedding website then they might have something there. 

 

We said no gifts but still received bottles of wine/cash in envelopes. All lovely 🙂

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Have you googled their name + registry?

I have never received an invite with gift info on it and still always manage to find the registry with a quick google search. If you can’t find a registry, give cash. Of course, gifts aren’t to be expected by the couple but I still wouldn’t go empty handed.

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