MemberMy SO and I have been invited to the wedding of one of his friends, but neither on the invitation or on the wedding website is there anything about gifts. Should we interpret this as ‘no gifts’, as an opportunity to choose one ourselves, or simply ask the couple (not sure if it’s relevant, but we’re in the UK and are invited to both the ceremony and the reception).
MemberIn this instance, I’d usually ask them if there’s a shop they’d like vouchers to or anything. We usually get John Lewis vouchers for them otherwise 🙂
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MemberI would give a cash gift, this is what we normally do anyway (Ireland).
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MemberWe didn’t put any info and got so many messages asking us, I wish we had. When people asked what we wanted we told them we had everything we needed and just to bring themselves. We got cash, gift cards, a few photo frames and some wine glasses. If there is no registry info we normally give cash.
MemberI’d say they’d like cash or people to buy whatever they like. Feel free to ask them though.
I only had one friend who did this and they genuinely wanted to see what people got them and for guests to feel free to make their own choice. They ended up with about 60 champagne flutes…
MemberHave you googled them to see if there’s a registry? Any mention of gifts on an invitation is considered inappropriate, so that’s probably why there’s nothing there. If you googled them and there’s no registry popping up, I’d just give cash (which is my standard wedding gift anyway).
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MemberAccording to most threads on here, if you want cash, you shouldn’t ask for it, but just don’t have a registry and people will assume!!
we didn’t have a registry (also in the uk) because we were living in a tiny flat overseas at the time. Family members who asked my mum were pointed in the direction of a very cool furniture and kitchen shop with gift vouchers that never expire, and other people gave us cash or chose/made us gifts. We got a good balance.
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MemberI would interperate it as meaning they want cash and not stuff.
MemberDebrett’s <em style=”color: #000000; font-family: ‘Helvetica Neue’; font-size: 16px; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-weight: 300; letter-spacing: normal; orphans: 2; text-align: start; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; background-color: #ffffff;”>Wedding Guide editor Jo Bryant says: “Asking for money on your gift list is now commonplace, but it should be handled <em style=”color: #000000; font-family: ‘Helvetica Neue’; font-size: 16px; font-variant-ligatures: normal; font-variant-caps: normal; font-weight: 300; letter-spacing: normal; orphans: 2; text-align: start; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; widows: 2; word-spacing: 0px; -webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; background-color: #ffffff;”>carefully…Guest must feel as if they are giving money towards something worthwhile. Many travel agents allow guests to put money towards a couple’s dream honeymoon, and some offer lists of ‘experiences’ they can buy, such as a romantic meal.”
Another slightly less reputable one but one that I feel is accurate:
http://www.confetti.co.uk/other-articles/wedding-gift-list-wording
MemberThey are correct in not mentioning gifts on the invitation.
If they have a wedding website then they might have something there.
We said no gifts but still received bottles of wine/cash in envelopes. All lovely 🙂
MemberHave you googled their name + registry?
I have never received an invite with gift info on it and still always manage to find the registry with a quick google search. If you can’t find a registry, give cash. Of course, gifts aren’t to be expected by the couple but I still wouldn’t go empty handed.
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