Post # 17
It’s still following etiquette to give a wedding gift within three months of the wedding. If it’s family you see often, maybe the just figured they’ll give you the card the next time they see you? My family is notorious for forgetting to bring cards to events, they’re almost always sent a few weeks late.
Post # 18
Hey, I think it’s rude they didn’t! I was just saying that if people travel, they do incur expense and it is a bit of sacrifice. That was all – they’re not off the hook, just get a little more leeway in my book.
Post # 19
Ouch. This how I’ll probably feel when my wedding day comes.
We’re on my FI’s family’s bad side right now, so we’ll be lucky if they even show up let alone give us a gift/card.
I am sorry this has happened, that kind of sucks. It isn’t the gift it’s the principle of the matter.
Post # 20
It IS the principal! Also, some of these younger cousins signed our wedding certificate as “Harry Potter and Hermione.” Grrr.
Post # 21
Yeah that’s really bizarre! I mean, I had some friends who clearly weren’t super-together who stuck a bottle of wine in a happy birthday bag, but at least they TRIED (and I liked the wine!).
Post # 22
I’m one of those people who thinks that giving gifts at weddings is absolutely necessary and 100% expected. Not giving a gift is the height or rudeness. I have never attended a wedding and not given something, I think it’s the number 1 on my list for the T word of which we do not speak. If you don’t have the money then make something!
Post # 24
Yeah, I agree. It’s really not catching anyone off guard that you’re really supposed to be a gift. The first wedding I attended – age 12 – obviously I didn’t have much money but I spent ages finding exactly the candlestick my aunt would like
I don’t think it’s too much to expect a card from your guests…
Post # 25
I have heard some horror stories about gifts received (or not received) at my friends’ weddings.
There are a couple family/friends that are traveling to my wedding and incurring more than average expenses due to where I live, so I’m not expecting gifts from them, but I am hoping they are smart enough to write down a few words of sentiment in a card. And for those that can’t afford a gift, but attend the wedding – they should be able to afford a card since they obviously paid for that tank of gas that got them to the wedding in the first place.
Post # 26
I agree with others. No one is too bad off that they cannot at least give the bride and groom a card. Some guests did simply give a card and as the saying goes, it is the thought that counts!
We found that after my sister’s wedding, many guests and family members did not give a gift or a card. Not one member of the groom’s LARGE family gave a gift or a card. His family did not like my sister, and this was one of the ways they made it known. They came, they ate, they got drunk and they brought horribly behaved kids to an adult only wedding! Honestly, their dislike for her did contribute to their divorce a year later…..but that is another story!