(Closed) no gifts from my bridal party!

posted 7 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: What would you do about not getting a gift from your bridal party?
    Dont address it, just let it go. : (135 votes)
    82 %
    Say something in passing, but dont press them about it. : (16 votes)
    10 %
    Point it out to them and hope for the best : (7 votes)
    4 %
    other (please explain) : (6 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
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    1297 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Hmm…not even a card? Could it be that their gifts got lost?? Is that a possibility?

    Post # 4
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    82 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I suppose I would go about it one of three ways:  (because there is no way that I would let the two most important female friends of my life get by with that kind of behavior)

    *Jokingly ask them when/where you will be getting your belated gift for the wedding.

    *Regretfully mention to them that you couldn’t find their gift/card anywhere, and you are wondering if it was lost at the wedding/reception… and see what they say.

    *Approach them and explain to them how upset you are that they didn’t get you a gift.  Be sure to explain that getting a gift isn’t why you are upset, but the fact that they didn’t do anything or say anything on a day that was so special to you.

    Post # 5
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I voted for “other”. I would have said to say nothing and let it go, but I know there’s no way I would be able to let something like that go. I would probably just wait and see what happens. None of the women in my bridal party have gotten a gift for us yet, but I’m about 99% sure that they’re waiting to see what big items from our registry didn’t get purchased by other guests. Hopefully your friends are doing the same thing…

    Post # 7
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    404 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Uhm… for the wedding I was in, I did get my friend a card… however, since I spent a ton of money on dress/shoes/hair/makeup/travel/bachelorette/shower/shower present, I don’t think she expected a present. I don’t expect one from anyone in my bridal party.

    I understand they seemed to slack a bit on supporting you, and that sucks (I definitely did NOT slack in that for my friend), but I feel like there’s no way you can approach it with them and have it end well- it may be just nice to let it go. If a guest doesn’t bring a present, you still send a card and thank them for coming and celebrating with you.

    Post # 8
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    8353 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I voted for other because the right thing to do would to be just to let it go; however, you and your mom basically paid for and planned almost everything, so I would say something, but it would be along the lines of asking them if you inadvertantly did anything to make them mad at you. Maybe they are just experiencing hard time; although, I do find it very strange that they didn’t even get a card for you. They could have made you one or purchased one from the dollar store.

    Post # 10
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    6394 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    They might have just been broke and couldn’t afford a gift? I haven’t gotten gifts for people whose weddings I was in, but I typically try very hard to help out where I can. They might just think it’s not expected of them. 

    Post # 11
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    1057 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    Well, the way I see it– they paid a lot of money to be in the wedding and the more I talk to people the more people seem to think that that is their gift to the couple. 

    Post # 13
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    10288 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Fiance and I were both in our best friends wedding last year and in the commotion of trying to get everything together to bring to their wedding, we forgot the card at home. I ended up giving it to her like 4 months later, which was the next time I saw her. 

    Technically, guests do have up to a year after the wedding to send a gift. Maybe they honestly forgot to bring it, who knows…

    Post # 14
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    @soontobekatieb: I think that was totally above and beyond of you to foot the bill. Probably they should have gotten you a present, or a card, or something. I just don’t know if it’s something that’s approachable without a huge mess ensuing. Undecided

    Post # 16
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    1297 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Honestly, if I were in your shoes I would bring it up, but that’s because my Maid/Matron of Honor is my sister, so I would demand to know WHY she couldn’t even give me a card.

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