Post # 1
We are throwing a 40th wedding anniversary party for my DH’s parents and will be sending out invitations. Now I know you are not supposed to refer to gifts at all on a wedding invitation but what about for an anniversary party. My inlaws specifically said they do not want gifts. Is it ok to put “no gifts please” on the invitation? Is there a nicer or more discreet way to put it? I know we could tell each person individually since it will only be 50-60 people but I’d like to come up with an alternate solution
Post # 3
I once saw “your presence and not your presents is requested”…I don’t think that was exactly it, but very close.
Post # 4
I really don’t know the ettiqute, I mean it isn’t a wedding so technically the invitations can be a bit informal. I’m torn on the putting it on the invitation itself though (largely due to the fact it’s not in the ettiqute rules for a wedding)….
Would it be a large burden to tell everyone? I guess that’s my question to your question.
EDIT: I looove what @MissHelen said!
Post # 5
Actually it’s considered rude to say anything about gifts. They aren’t required. Some people will bring gifts anyway and they should be graciously accepted, but nothing should be said either way to anyone.
Post # 6
I also like what MissHelen suggested. Another approach is to say that in lieu of gifts, a donation to a charity would be appreciated. But that runs into the same problem with the invitation.
Probably taking MissHelen’s approach is the way to go, and when you get the phone call from the dozen people who are into gifting, mention the charity. I’m one of those gifty people, so I would appreciate some way of recognizing the happy couple.
Post # 7
Ive also seen something along the lines of what misshelen wrote. People still brought gifts.
Post # 8
Perhaps if you said something like, “We’re having a Card Shower for Bob and Marie (no other gifts please!)”? I also like the “We request your presence, not your presents!” line.
Post # 9
FI’s mom just had a 90th birthday party for FI’s grandfather. The invite said, “Your presence will be our treasured gift” to indicate that presents were unnecessary.
Post # 10
For my parent’s 25th anniversary party we added “Your presence is the only gift we desire”, or something along those lines. Some people still brought gifts, but a lot of people just brought a card that they had signed with some well wishes written inside. We figured people would still bring cards and had a card box set-up next to the cake.
Post # 11
I would not think it was rude if I received an ivitation that said to not bring gifts. I would actually appreciate that it is clear that only my presence is needed since I always stress on the perfect gift.
Post # 12
I have seen invites that say something along the lines of Best Wishes Only.
Post # 13
I wouldn’t be offended if the invite said “no gifts please”. I’m also someone who stresses about what to give, so it would be nice to have something clear that told me not to bring anything. = )
Post # 14
There’s nothing offensive at all about saying ‘no gifts’ (or the other great ways the other bees have come up with). You are saving people the time, money, and trouble of getting a gift, so how could anyone get upset?