Post # 1
ive been living with my husband for 8 years, i guessed weve been legally married for 8 years, we are doing our religious wedding this year, but i dont need any household things like guests normally give on weddings, how do I tell them?
Post # 3
I would put an additional info card in the invitation, simply stating, “No gifts, please. Thank you!”
Post # 4
I think etiquette says not to say things like “no gifts” or “cash only”. My Fiance and I are in the same situation (I have been living on my own for 5 years, he has been living on his own for 10- years, and we have been living together for 2). We are going to do a very limited registry with just things we wouldn’t mind upgrading on like a knew, high quality knife set, a new duvet for our bed, and some fine china. We certainly won’t have enough for everyone to buy something, but many of our guests have been to our home and know that we have everything we need.
Another option is to sign up for one of those honeymoon registry sites. The crap thing is that they take a fee (3 or 5 or more percent?), but the good thing is it is still a “registry” of sorts.
Post # 5
Gift information does not belong on wedding invitations. Just spread the word that you do not wish to receive gifts at all.
From an etiquette perspective, honemoon registries can be seen as rude.
Post # 6
Just don’t register and don’t write anything about gifts on invitations. When guests ask you/your family/your bridal party, have them say exactly what you’ve told us. They’ll choose whether to give you money, a gift card, or a small token as they see fit.
Post # 7
Write on the bottom of the invite: ‘Your prescence is present enough’. This is the only instance i think writing your gift preference is okay as your stating you dont want gifts.
Post # 7
If your preference is cash DONT write on the invite monetary gifts preferred. Dont have a registry (or only have a few things on it as some people still like to give gifts) and let the word get around that you are wanting to buy a new dining room table etc.
Post # 8
@takemyhand: “We are going to do a very limited registry with just things we wouldn’t mind upgrading on like a knew, high quality knife set, a new duvet for our bed, and some fine china.”
We are doing this and a honeymoon registry. I know my aunts would prefer to get us something tangible so we will register for new bedding, bathroom sets, and other upgrades me might need. I plan on only putting registry information on our website.
There is a way to politely say that since you have already created a home for yourself over the course of time you have lived together. Something like that.
Post # 9
You shouldn’t say anything about gifts, period. You could have friends/family spread the word that you don’t need any household things, but mentionining gifts at all (presence or lack thereof) on an invitation isn’t very polite. If you don’t want anything for the house, definitely don’t have a registry!
Post # 10
I wouldn’t write anything. You can spread the word. BUT, people may want to give gifts so I agree, it might be worthwhile to register for some things you’d like to upgrade..
Post # 12
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
Don’t include anything at all with the invitation.
You could put on your website and have your friends and famiy share that if people really want to give a gift that they donate to XYZ charities in your name.