(Closed) No gifts?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
96 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Don’t know if it’s normal, but it’s certainly not unheard of. Some guests can afford it. Some guests may have gotten you a shower gift and felt that was enough. Or maybe some forgot. Are they close or rich relatives? Can you call them and demand a reason?! Haha.

Post # 4
2470 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Traditionally, etiquette allows up to one year post-wedding. Some people, unfortunately, plan to send something but forget. It has only been about a month, you may receive some more before the end of the year.

Post # 5
754 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

Actually, Emily Post says that the "one year rule" is not proper etiquette:

How soon should I send a gift? 

Preferably, send the gift to the bride before the wedding or to the couple soon thereafter. In some regions gifts are brought to the reception and placed on a special table. Contrary to a current rumor that you have a year to send a gift, it really should be sent right away or within three months of the wedding.

 And the people who did not bring a gift to my wedding, either not saying anything or saying they will send it, did not ever send a gift, which surprised me, too.  


Post # 7
613 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

same here…a ton of people showed up sans gift.  some people even crashed and didnt even give a card.  the wierdest part was the people who wrote in their cards that the gift was being shipped to our house and I know they have not purchased anything…basically, theres not much you can say or do.  Just be polite and gracious.

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