- 9 years ago
- Wedding: November 2012
I first want to start this off by saying our wedding has become a monster we barely have say in. What we wanted was a small intimate ceremony and a nice dinner at a sophisticated steakhouse with immediate family. We didn’t want an aisle, we didn’t want dancing, and we didn’t want bridesmaids or groomsmen amongst pretty much everything else weddings consist of. We just wanted to be married and we wanted it to be low-key. Now, for reasons too long and irrelevant to this post, we are having a big wedding with the whole sha-bang in Las Vegas. (Note: We’re not paying for it, which is why this suddenly has become a nightmare)
I have five younger sisters and four of them are going to be my bridesmaids (the youngest will be just over a year old by the time the wedding is here, so obviously too young to be a bridesmaid). Two of these sisters basically just assigned themselves bridesmaids and we’re extremely excited… they had already started looking at bridesmaids dresses and stuff so at that point, I just couldn’t say no. So then of course I had to ask the other two sisters.
I didn’t think it was that big of a deal since my fiance has lots of friends. Well his friends suck. He asked one to be a groomsmen and the guy changed the subject and basically rejected my fiance passive aggressively. This guy has been good friends with my fiance for about 10 years!
I think that rejection embarrassed my fiance and I think it’s made him just not want to ask anyone. I don’t blame him! I feel so terrible because I can’t demote my sisters… and I really don’t want him to have to stand by himself at the alter while I have four bridesmaids. He doesn’t have any brothers and his only male cousin and him don’t get along. I don’t know what to do and I feel so guilty and angry for caving into all of this.