(Closed) No groomsmen/best man yet???

posted 8 years ago in Grooms/men
  • poll: How long after engagement did YOUR man ask his groomsmen to be in the wedding party?
    Before engagement : (1 votes)
    7 %
    Within weeks after engagement : (8 votes)
    57 %
    A few (4 or more) months before wedding : (3 votes)
    21 %
    1-2 months before wedding : (0 votes)
    A year or more before wedding : (2 votes)
    14 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    7975 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    J asked 2 of his guys about a month after we got engaged, which would be about 7 months before the wedding, and then asked my brother about a month later, after me threatening that I was going to do it if he didn’t (he was uncomfortable because they’re not very close, but thought it was still his ‘responsibility’ haha).

    He knew who he wanted to ask before we got officially engaged though.

    Post # 4
    Member
    988 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    haha sounds like the story line of the movie I Love You Man….My Fiance new who he was going to ask since before we got engaged…his buddies he has known since grade school, his cousin, and my brother

    Post # 5
    Member
    8353 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I don’t think you should worry, yet. You still have a little bit of time. I couldn’t stand the wait, so I kept asking my Fiance to ask someone, until he finally did. I just wanted one less thing to worry about.

    Post # 7
    Member
    605 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    My wedding is in July. I have 2 BM’s, a Maid/Matron of Honor and 3 flower girls. Fiance has picked NO ONE. At first I thought he was procrastinating, but he recently told me he doesn’t want groomsmen or a best man. He feels awkward asking his friends (although he has several close friends who’d be happy to do it).

    I felt funny about the imbalance at first, but now I don’t care. It’s an informal wedding. We’ll just send my attendants down the aisle in various configurations and that’s that. Five minutes from now, no one will remember that I had attendants and he didn’t and there was no official best man.

    We may use a Chuppah (traditional Jewish wedding canopy). I’m hoping he might ask some of his friends or family members to help hold it over us during the ceremony, but it’s up to him. I’m not about pressuring him to do things that feel uncomfortable to him.

    Post # 8
    Member
    761 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    My Fiance asked a friend but since he would need to come from overseas we have a sort of backup groomsmen plan. It makes me feel a little bad but either way my Fiance wants someone up there so his friends are first in line then to fill is is my brother (12 yrs old so he does nor care if he is backup), then his cousin and then his sisters Fiance. I totally feel this makes us seem mean but this is the only way we could make it work.

    Post # 9
    Member
    831 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    My Fiance had an idea of who he wanted to be his Groomsmen so the day after I asked my girls, he called his boys. Now if I can only get him to pick out what he wants to wear so we can get everyone fitted and measured!!

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