MemberIs anyone NOT having a flower girl or ring bearer at their wedding? Does anyone think it’s unheard of? My in-law seem to think it’s necessary since they are very old school. However, I don’t know anyone and neither does my fiance know anyone with young children that would be able to fill those roles.
MemberWe didn’t. We had a million kids to pick from and I did not want kids in the wedding. It’s not unheard of. It’s a 50/50 shot that weddings have them anymore.
Member@mrswiggles – thanks. I thought so too – nobody is really going to care probably. thanks for input.
MemberI had a flower girl but no ring bearer. I don’t think it’s weird not to have them. In fact, I’d think it’d be far weirder to put small children you don’t really have a relationship with in those roles just to check a box.
MemberI had neither. The location didn’t want flowers on the floor and I didn’t want to spend money on things to step on. I had the rings in my handbag and we put them on the table in front of us during the wedding.
MemberNope. Neither flower girl nor ring bearer. We didn’t want either. So little is really “necessary”. Most is just tradition and traditions change over time.
MemberHonestly, it’s pretty old school these days and lots of people choose not to have them. I think you should only do so if you know children who you really want to participate in the wedding. We had a “ring bearer” who my best friend’s 9-month old son. She carried him down the aisle with a ring box. We did it only because we wanted him in the wedding, not because we wanted or needed a ring bearer.
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MemberWe didn’t and I have 3 nieces & 2 nephews at the right age. No kids whatsoever were invited. I’ve seen flower girls so many times be unpredictable at weddings. Aged 3, I was one of them. I ran up to the alter at my aunt’s wedding 😅🤦♀️
MemberMember2/3 weddings I attended didn’t have them this year so it doesn’t seem unheard of.
MemberWe did not have them. We also had a child free wedding. It was great!!
MemberWe won’t be having either despite having kids in the fam of the appropriate age. I wanted our dog but FH nixed the idea, lol! Logistically it was too hard to involve her due to travel and finding an additional handler to assist.
MemberI actually think most weddings don’t have flower girls or ring bearers. Non of the weddings I have been to recently have had them and fiancé and I won’t have either at ours.
MemberWe aren’t having either. I’ve hardly been to any weddings that actually have them anymore.