No Having a Flower Girl / Ring Bearer

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 31
5 posts
  • Wedding: July 2019

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krissymichelle070 :  well if it makes you feel better i’m not having brides maid, grooms men or what have you, b/c i just don’t have the patience for people. just a simple and nice intimate wedding with family, friends and a wedding dinner with drinks and a dj

Post # 32
549 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

I’m not having either.

Post # 33
1242 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2018 - UK

Nope! We didn’t have kids at the wedding,but even if we did, I still wouldn’t have had them. Our wedding party was small, I just had my Maid/Matron of Honor, and he just had his best woman, no groomsmen and no other bridesmaids.

 I echo the PPs, I can’t remember the last wedding I went to with a flower girl. It may have been when I WAS the flower girl, so late 80s…

Post # 34
701 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2019 - City, State

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krissymichelle070 :  I’m not having either. We do not have any little ones in either family that would make it appropriate. Though my Future Mother-In-Law did try to convince me to use my fiance’s neice and nephew, even though they are too old for the roles. Really I think she was just trying to get me to include them so I didn’t have an adults only wedding ‘-_-


*EDIT: to sauy I went to a wedding in October with a flower girl. I think she was the neice of the bride. She was cute, but threw her flowers onto the laps of the guests instead of down the aisle, and then had to be coaxed to the front after she got half way. They didn’t have a ring bearer.

Post # 35
185 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2019 - Mountains

We’re not having a wedding party other than a flower girl. Our wedding will be small- about 40 people so there was no reason for bridemaids or groomsmen. Between us we have 1 niece and 5 nephews. All the boys are under 12. I have a prior post about my SIL who I greatly try to avoid conflict with. My thought was that there’s no point in upsetting anyone in choosing among the boys so we’re choosing none. My Future Sister-In-Law is disappointed but she isn’t upset. We have had push back about the size of our wedding but I don’t have much family let alone family that might be willing to travel for our big day. It does sound like they are old school, but think of it this way- its less for you to have to plan. That’s a win.

Post # 36
786 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018 - Farm

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krissymichelle070 :  We only had a flower girl. I don’t even think anyone noticed. I don’t thnk it is necessary. 

Post # 37
4410 posts
Honey bee

I didn’t at my first wedding and won’t at my second.  Not necessary at all.  

Post # 38
232 posts
Helper bee

We didn’t have a flower girl or ring bearer. We had cousins with small children we could have asked but since we went with a child free wedding we didn’t want to get into a couple kids being there but not everyone’s. I did have my DH’s niece as a junior bridesmaid but she was 10 so being a flower girl seemed a little childish for her.

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