- 4 years ago
- Wedding: December 2013
BiancaBee33: I am so, so sorry for this loss (which I know saying those words doesn’t help). It’s devastating and completely feels like someone just ripped out your heart. Please make sure you let yourself grieve and do whatever you feel you need to do to deal. I spent that week (I was on Spring Break when I MC’ed) in bed, watching Netflix, and crying on and off. It was what I needed to be able to begin to move on and start functioning like a person. If you need that, do it. Don’t try to force yourself to do anything when you’re just trying to survive the pain. I can’t give you advice on the D&C or medicine. I MC’ed naturally at 6.5 weeks, but the baby had stopped developing in week 5, so it was more like a crazy intense period. I would think about whether you can handle what will come with the medicine-induced MC. For me, seeing the bleeding (I found out on Monday afternoon that my hcg had plummeted and began bleeding early the next morning) and the cramping was just a slap in the face. I was thankful it was “natural”, but it was hard. I would do whichever you think will be best for your body and recovery.
ETA: Also, please know that if the grief continues (even though it does get better with time) that is totally normal. Darling Husband and I were lucky to get our rainbow baby quickly after my MC, and I am now 26 weeks with him. Even though we are so, so lucky to have him and he is healthy, a mother will never stop mourning the loss of a child, no matter how early it may have been lost. I still have moments of sadness wash over me when I think about that baby, so it’s all totally normal. Wishing you all the best.