Post # 1
We’ve known for a while now we won’t be able to afford a honeymoon. We’re paying for the wedding ourselves, and I’m in law school, only working part-time, so the money just isn’t there. For a while we talked about doing a “mini-moon” and just going out of town for a couple days, just to be alone together, but even that has become too expensive.
Then my parents suggested we could use a family friend’s cottage for a week, they are in Australia for the year and don’t rent it out or anything. My parents go up lots without them. They seemed like it would be a totally doable thing, but the friends ended up saying no.
I get it- its their cottage, they have no reason to let us use it. But I’m finding myself way more disapointed than I expected to be.
Our wedding is in less than 3 weeks, and I’m finding myself super bummed out, instead of excited for the wedding.
We both have a week off after the wedding, and I’m afraid it’ll just be netflix and video games and washing dishes.
I feel so bad about feeling this way. I really am excited for the wedding.
Does anyone else feel like this? Honestly if we could go back to the beginning, we’d elope and take a honeymoon, instead of spending all this money on a fancy party.
I guess I just need to get this all out here.. I really don’t want to bring this up with Fiance, he feels bad enough he can’t give me a honeymoon. He feels like he can’t “provide for me”. That’s not true. And I’m the one in school, not bringing in much income.
Anyways, that’s all. Thanks for listening bees 🙂
Post # 2
Can you save money after the weeking and have a honeymoon a few months after the wedding? You are right, it doesn’t have to be extravgant but simply going out of town for a few days is refreshing
Post # 3
- Wedding: April 2017 - Valleybrook Country Club
Maybe take 2 nights to go stay in a hotel even if it’s not far just for something different? Or if you can’t get away, make the most of your week together. Go on your own excursions nearby and have a picnic in a nice park and feed the ducks, maybe check out a new restaurant, go rollerblading, check out free museums, mini golf… Do things you don’t normally do and have fun with it
Post # 4
We didn’t have money for a wedding or a honeymoon. We got married in December in DH’s parent’s backyard with just our parents and were intending to save up to do a honeymoon that summer, but a week after the wedding, DH’s job went to hell so it got cancelled. I was bummed. We did end up doing a mini-moon road trip to New Orleans for our one year anniversary though.
If you have a few hundred bucks (cash gifts from the wedding?), maybe you could get a couple nights in a hotel in your town or go camping locally or something like that. Even just a couples massage could be nice. Or you could take a day trip somewhere fun. There’s a lot of things to do in between full honeymoon and neflix and dishes :).
Post # 5
What a bummer. Remind yourselves, though, that many newlyweds wait to take a honeymoon trip for many reasons.
You can get creative. Look for a house sitting option. Consider some camping options in your own backyard or at a campground somewhere. Decorate your guestroom as an exotic escape or your living room as a beach or your master as a fantasy; or do all three.
Celebrating your honeymoon doesn’t need a relocation.
Best wishes, Bee!
Post # 6
Can you guys see if you get any cash gifts, and use that for a honeymoon for the weekend at least? You can do a staycation but do a fancy dinner and something fun…lots of options even if you can’t fly or take a trip anywhere!
Post # 7
Can you go to the beach for a few days and use airbnb? I’m sure you’ll save some money if you go on a weekday.
Post # 8
We were in a similar situation. We had always planned on Hawaii for our honeymoon. We had gone there once before and were really looking forward to hitting up the fave spots again. But as the wedding got closer, we realized we just couldn’t afford it the way we wanted to. It was definitely a bummer. My husband then suggested Catalina, which is a lot more low key but still just as special to us and it was totally perfect. What if you just did 1 or 2 nights during your week off somewhere nearby? Renting an AirBnb or VRBO could be really nice. Either way, I promise you that following week will be anything but blah. We went to the bank the following business day after the wedding and it was seriously so fun and exciting haha. You’ll be married! 🙂
Post # 9
Have you looked into a home exchange? We have done this several times. There is always someone who would like to visit where you live and you can get a change of scenery. The only cost to you is getting there.You don’t have to go thousands of miles away from home. Pick a nearby city, or rural area that you would enjoy.
You spend the same amount on groceries as you would at home.
Post # 10
This may come off a bit tacky, but we’re actually expecting the cash gifts to help us pay somethings off. That could be an option for you.
Post # 11
- Wedding: October 2015 - Ruby Princess
I know it would be awesome to go on a real vacation, but I think a week off work after the wedding could be wonderful. I’m not sure where you live, but maybe try to be a tourist in your own city, or maybe a nearby city. take a couple day trips and see some sights.
I see that you live in Ottowa. That’s awesome! maybe head to montreal for the day or overnight and have a nice dinner out, and do some touristy stuff. I’m not familiar with the area at all, but from the map it looks like there are many rivers. Maybe a day trip on a boat? picnic on the river bank? I’m just throwing ideas out, but you get the idea. You live near a very popular vacation destination. Take advantage of it!
Save up after the wedding and do an anniversary trip to somewhere warm and vacationy!
Post # 12
- Wedding: July 2016 - Blue Devil Golf Club
We are not having a honeymoon right away either. We have to save to have one next year sometime. I do not feel too bad about it though, it is fairly common around here for people to put off their honeymoon whether it is for financial reasons or the fact that in Canada if you get married in the summer sometimes it’s better to put off a warm weather trip until the winter time. Not saying it is like this in all of Canada, but I know many couples who have done this in Alberta.
Post # 13
- Wedding: April 2015 - Family Farm
what about camping? My DH and I are going this weekend. Food is super low key, bagels for breakfast, pb&j for lunch and chips and brats for dinner. Our splurge is the alcohol. You could probably borrow a tent and sleeping bags can be pretty romantic. I know woods and dirt aren’t everyone’s idea of a romantic getaway away but hiking and sitting by a fire can be wonderfully relaxing.
Post # 14
I think the suggestions so far are fab! We also couldn’t afford the full honeymoon straight away and we got very lucky indeed that my dad’s gf insisted on paying for us to have a mini break, but what I wanted to share is that I’m actually really glad that we haven’t done our honeymoon straight away as quite frankly, I’m knackered after the wedding.
Also, it’s nice to have a new goal to plan and look forward to, especially after the come down from the wedding. I’ve heard similar from others who have gone on to have incredible delayed honeymoons (again as pp has said – each was delayed for a different set of circumstances).
I think a lovely staycation or a night or two at a nearby hotel to just relax sound idyllic!
Post # 15
We knew we wouldn’t be able to afford a honeymoon right away so we saved and are taking it on our 1 year anniversary. But we did still want to take a small trip but didn’t want to spend much money. So we just got in the car and drove for a couple days. We hiked some trails and camped for half the time ($25 a night for a campsite, can’t complain there) then splurged on a good (not super fancy) hotel for two nights with a gift that was in a wedding card. With gas and such we maybe spent $350ish the whole mini moon.
It helped us wind down from the wedding and we still got to plan for a nicer honeymoon the following year.