Post # 1
Any other brides doing a NO HOST BAR? Its completely out of our budget, we chose food over drink. Sometimes i think maybe we should have sprung for something, but its so expensive and our friends and family drink a ton. The last family wedding we went to they chose drink over food and had an open bar and pizza for dinner. Please let me know its not awful we’re not paying for drinks!
Post # 3
This is one of the most controversial topics on WB so be prepared for some heated discussion 🙂 Personally I’m against cash bars and avoided this at all costs by cutting from other things; but there are lots of girls that do it, you’re not awful and it’s your wedding & entirely your choice. You need to do what feels right to you. Just be prepared for the fact that some guests may feel differently than you do.
Another option to consider if you’re worried about the amount of drinking to set a limit on the hosted bar. e.g. You will pay for x number of bottles of wine and beer, after that it’s a cash bar. At least this way you can control the budget.
Post # 4
Open bars aren’t that common here. We did wine on the tables, and a drink ticket, but after that the guests were on their own.
Post # 5
We’re not doing an open bar. We may host a set amount and then a cash bar after that. Plus a friend reminded me today that people can be unpredictable when they drink a lot. Cash bar helps to control that.
Post # 6
uggh, I think this is a regional thing, but yeah, so Bees get pretty uptight about it.
We really wanted to do an open bar, but budget restrictions limited us. We are subsidizing the bar. All drinks are $2 and we pay the difference. Being in Canada we call it a Toonie Bar (a toonie is our $2 coin)
People (in my area) expecta toonie bar. It also limits people from wasting alcohol.
We are having complimentary wine on the tables, giving everyone a ‘have a drink on us’ ticket, and the wedding party + their dates drink for free.
I’d rather this than use all our wedding money to pay a tab.
Post # 7
We are having a cash bar, no one around here has open bars.
Post # 8
We are probably having an open bar, but only because FH’s parents will finance it – if it were up to my parents it would be all cash. 🙂 Don’t worry about this though – I’ve been to several weddings where this has been the case; a lot of times, depending on the venue, they will lower their typical prices for wedding guests, which helps. I’ve also been to “dry” weddings and I’d definitely take a cash bar over THAT!
Post # 9
We’re doing a dry wedding, if it makes you feel better.
I think your choice is fine, but let people know ahead of time so they bring money. 🙂
Post # 10
In my area no one really has cash bars, and my fmil insisted on a full open bar all night — and offered to pay for it — so that’s what we’ll be doing.
I agree with daydreamwanderer; make sure you’re guests know ahead of time. Since I’ve never been to a wedding with a cash bar I probably wouldn’t have cash on me, which would be kind of a bummer.
Post # 11
Even if it was open bar, wouldn’t you have cash on you anyway to tip the bartender or take a cab home? I pretty much always bring cash to a wedding. I would never assume someone is having an open bar.
In Wisconsin, it’s common to have free beer, and sometimes also free wine. Liquor is almost never included. We hosted beer, wine, and champagne.
Post # 12
In the south a cash bar is considered VERY tacky, but that does not mean it is less expensive! We were lucky enough to find a venue that allowed us to purchase our own alcohol and they will serve it. This cuts down the cost A LOT and we get to pick what we want and when it is gone, its gone. (and we keep the leftovers 🙂
Consider doing just beer and wine or maybe a signature drink? It will keep the costs down and no one (should) think poorly of that choice.
Post # 13
I agree, and we’re also having a cash bar…let your guests know ahead of time and enjoy your day!!
Post # 14
Honestly I dont get the beer/wine hosting TONS of people don’t drink wine or beer why not give them the choice to buy what they want. As a guest I would much rather have the choice to pay for a drink even if it was $20 per drink then get free beer or wine.
Post # 15
We had a cash bar, I’m also Canadian. In my experience, open bars are very few and far between, and we are all expect it. Our friends and families drink a lot and we feared wastefulness/being taken advantage of. We estimated an open bar would cost anywhere between $4,000 – $6,000 extra based on the # of guests and the drinks running from $4.50 – $7.50 each, and we had no room to cut down other costs. One day isn’t worth going into personal bankruptcy, and on my planet, alcohol doesn’t trump photography – sorry. We “hosted” 2 bottles of wine on each table and all the “soft” drinks (water, tea, coffee, soda)
If you are set on offering a little more, consider an open bar while you are having your photos taken. It’s still a nice gesture but since it will only be open a short while, it won’t risk breaking the bank like a full reception open bar will.
Post # 16
I am doing free beer and wine and cash bar for any hard drinks. It cuts down costs but still gives my guests a free option. Tell your friends to bring flasks 😉