(Closed) No house guests, please!! semi-vent..

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

We ended up having houseguests before our wedding, so my solution was to stay in the hotel the night before!  I wasn’t going to compete with anyone over use of the bathroom, and honestly I was so exhausted from all the planning & last minute running around that I didn’t have the energy left to entertain anyone.  I ended up staying in the room of a girl friend from out of town, and it was lovely to catch up and have a quiet, relaxing evening.  I slept like a baby the night before my wedding!  It was wonderful 🙂

Post # 4
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5958 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

Easy fix, tell them the toilet’s broken….nothing scares off guests faster than hearing that the plumbing is on the fritz

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Nona99:  good one.  i’m going to use that line.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I agree with your rule… with the exception of if I had a family member that was hurting for money. I’d also make the exception for my parents or a grandparent (my g’ma is alone and doesn’t have much money!) But if that’s what you want… just explain to the people who want to stay… that you can’t have EVERYONE staing at your house and to make it fair, noone is going to.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We’re having houseguests. My mom, two bridesmaids, and one of their husbands are staying with us. We have a huge house, though, (5000 square feet), so it’s not bad. If I had a smaller place, I don’t know if I would have encouraged it.

Post # 9
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200 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

My husband’s mum and sister stayed with us for the THREE WEEKS before our wedding. They were traveling internationally for it, and the only feasible option for housing was our little 2-bedroom apartment.

It wasn’t easy, but it wasn’t impossible. We made sure to have date nights and to have the house to ourselves the night before the wedding, and that was CRUCIAL.

So, anyway, I sympathize. I felt like a total b myself, because I argued and cried and freaked out about it… but in the end I gave in, and I survived it. Not that I’m RECOMMEND it to anyone else, but it’s doable. Good luck!!

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I personally could not do it.

But I do understand that in some situations (family coming from abroad, or money tight) that maybe it would be a reasonable expectation…

In which case like DaneLady: I’d be sticking with that great old custom of the Bride & Groom not being together the night before… and finding myself a Hotel Room.

Infact, I pretty much plan to do this no matter what.  Even tho I am Eloping to a Destination Wedding with Mr TTR (so just the 2 of us) … I LOVE this tradition… I am an Encore Bride… so have done it before.  There is truly something wonderful about being able to get ready away from each other, the anticipation that builds, and that moment you then first see each other on your Wedding Day.

For logistics, I’ll be renting a Hotel Room near our Condo, and the same room will be our location for our Wedding Night (so no need to worry about packing / luggage).  Arrive Pre Wedding, Leave Post Wedding.  Easy Peasy.

Hope this helps,

 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@mrsvelezzz:  Oh, I TOTALLY understand. I’m not exaggerating when I say I fought tooth-and-nail against it, because no one needs more stress right before their wedding, and it’s also important to be able to have alone time with your fiance! I hope you get your way on this one, and if you don’t, try to set some ground rules (for me, it was one date night a week, one night a week by myself/with my friends, and a space alone the night before the wedding). Good luck!

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

If you don’t want houseguests you can make sure the next time you speak to these people, you tell them about all the great, cheap, local hotels nearby and if they’d be interested in booking a room (which you could do for them).  You have to come to a compromise with your fi too, so have a talk and figure out who can stay, how many people and go from there.

I am hosting all my oot family.  I just didn’t want them to buy tickets and then have to pay for a hotel too.  Fmil will also host a few of my family members as well.  It’s the least we can do… I don’t think it’ll be stressful with family around either…some of these people I haven’t seen in almost 10 years and they want to come to my wedding yay!

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

At one point, I had 7 houseguests planning to stay with me back when I had a Destination Wedding planned.  When I finally said no, I think that’s when my mom did a 180 and decided she wasn’t coming any more!  “Forget it!  You don’t want me there!”  Yeesh.

 

You two need to communicate and comprmise.  It seems you would be more upset to have guests than he would to not have guests.

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