- 8 years ago
Ughh! I swear, the next time FCIL makes another little snarky comment about my choice of timeline, I’m going to knock her teeth down her throat! I have had enough of it and I really feel like I am going to explode.
FCIL got engaged because Fiance and I got engaged and she didn’t want to be beat down the aisle. She got engaged in January and set her wedding for May. She was able to plan the wedding in four months because it was not formal or anything. FCIL ended up getting to use the church of FFIL’s friend for free for the ceremony and reception. The church was highly outdated and in desperate need of landscaping. Multiple times she suggested I get married there, and multiple times I reminded her that the sole reason my engagement was so long was because I wanted to be able to afford something nicer than that. With me trying to make my wedding a bit nicer, I need to work on it a bit longer (DIY projects).
FCIL’s reception meal was potluck, all brought in by family. No photographer. The cake was made by a baker lady we know. So, there were no reservations that needed to be made for FCIL’s wedding. Like I said, the church is a small, not very well known church. There’s probably a wedding there once a year, if that. It was just a pretty thrown together affair. I didn’t want my wedding to be like that.
For my wedding, I am getting married at a popular coastal venue. A lot of 2012 dates are already booked up. Technically (according to timelines set on TheKnot and other sites), I am behind on booking. Yesterday, I mentioned to FCIL that Fiance and I would be booking next week. She said, “Oh, did they say anything to you about booking so early? Or are they going to let you?” I just looked at her like, are you serious? My wedding is in less than eleven months. How am I booking too early? Why wouldn’t they let me?!
FCIL says something like this EVERY time I mention my wedding, and it is really annoying. She is the number one reason I’ve felt nervous to mention my wedding planning process to anyone, because I feel like everyone thinks I’m nuts. Anytime I tell FCIL about something I’m doing/have done for the wedding she says things like, “You shouldn’t do that this early!” or, “It’s kinda soon, don’t you think?” or, “Sometimes you’ve just gotta step back and remind yourself that you can’t have the wedding of your dreams.” (Her favorite thing to do is insinuate that my ideas are too expensive and that I won’t be able to go through with them.)
I really don’t know what this girl’s deal is, but I am sick of her opinion regarding the time frame at which I complete things. I actually feel as though I’m running behind. I wanted to have everything done early, so I wouldn’t have to stress so hard right before the wedding. I understand that FCIL planned her entire wedding in four months. That is fine. She didn’t do Save-The-Date Cards. I have to do them because my wedding is a formal, destination wedding. She insists that I shouldn’t do them until like March or April of next year. She nearly fell down when she found out I’d gotten my dress already.
I am trying to be patient because I realize that other people may not be as knowledgable about weddings as I am. But, I can’t help but feel like FCIL wants my wedding to fail/not materialize. Not based on this, alone, but there are other things I don’t have time to get into right now.