(Closed) No, I am NOT your free daycare service.

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
3368 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

UGH I can’t stand that!

Message her back and say, “I’m sorry, I’ve been sick and I need a break as well. If I am going to continue to babysitting for you as much as I have lately, I am going to need payment because I am sacrificing my days to watch your son.”

I’m sure there’s a nicer way to word it, but I’m in a mood today anyway so I can’t find one, LOL!


*side note: I hope you’re feeling way better soon!*

Post # 4
1425 posts
Bumble bee

These are the people that are populating the world… we are so fucked.

Anyway, just tell her you can’t, you’re not available, ect.  Simple as that.  Its not your responsibility, or anybody elses for that matter, to “give her a break” from her own son.

Just be firm with her.  People like that will take a mile when you give them an inch…

Post # 5
2023 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Poor baby and poor you… I hope she gets her act together soon or Im afraid he’ll be taken away too

Post # 6
5956 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

I would say this ” As much as I adore the opportunity to spend time with my brother I am afraid I am unavailable to watch him this week.”

Can’t really argue with that, and if she does show up unannounced, just don’t answer the door.


Post # 7
2622 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@PacificMrs:  this 


“I love spending time with my brother, but I dont think he enjoyed the last long visit. This week doesnt work but I would be happy to have him on X day from 5-8pm so you two can go to dinner, but right now I dont think overnights are going to work”

Post # 8
2103 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Poor kiddo. 🙁

You don’t have to give a reason, just say “I’m sorry, I’m busy this week.”

Post # 11
5242 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Pinksapphire:  Wow! People like that should not have children..that might sound mean but its true. I would firmly say no. You are just getting over being sick and you dont think its a good idea for you to watch him and leave it at that.

Post # 12
7679 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

This attitude to parenting just boggles my mind. Your dad needs to get “the snip”. I really don’t know what to add except you need to say a big fat “No”, perhaps with “he’s your son, not mine”.

Post # 13
2400 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

No. Just no. I am a mom of a two year old. My parents watch her maybe 2-3 nights a month and that is if THEY ask for her. When your a parent you don’t get a break. You spread your legs now time to put your big kid panties on and deal. Some parents (shouldn’t even be called parents) blow my mind.

Post # 14
942 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013


The worst thing that can happen is that she confronts you for ignoring that. And just say, Oh yes, I read that, I just dont have the time to do that. 

You’re only being honest, and she knows not to ask again.

Post # 15
480 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

What a cheek!! I can’t stand it when mothers don’t take responsibility. She is the one who made him, it is her job to look after him, or to find a suitable childcare or babysitting arrangement.

I’ve kind of been in a similar situation as you. This woman I know has phoned, texted, emailed etc to tell us that she will be dropping her daughter off for a sleep over. Just before New Years, I got a txt message from her saying that she thought it would be nice for her to drop off her daughter during the week one night, because she was going out. I thought it was so rude, I mean, I have a life too! I just replied saying no, and everything was sorted. On a seperate occassion with a different woman I was constantly used as a last minute baby sitter. One day, I gave her a few pamphlets about baby sitting services and after school programmes in the area, and that shut her up a bit. These women are advantage takers, who will nag, beg, play the poor me card etc. I find the best thing is to be blunt and say no, you can’t do it. Also, you could find out about baby sitting agencies and refer her to one of them, or, look into baby sitting rates for babies and charge her for your services Wink Don’t let her think she can get anything for free!

Good luck OP!

ETA: Also, you could tell her that you don’t think it would be good for either him or you seeing as you’re sick.

Post # 16
2523 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

You should say,



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