Post # 1
SO and I grew up very differently. He grew up in a loving home with 2 parents and a younger sister. Every night at 6pm sharp they sat down and had a home cooked family meal where they discussed their days and learned healthy eating habits.
I, on the other hand, grew up in a one parent household where every night I ate dinner at whatever time I was hungry. Many MANY nights it was a bowl of cereal. I do not ever recall us eating dinner as an entire family at the dinner island. Most nights my mother and I ate at completely different times.
Now that SO and I live together we have had to learn to blend our traditions and compromise. If I honestly had it my way we would eat dinner seated on the couch everynight because I am a slob like that. If SO had it his way one or both of us would cook a wholesome meal, involving potatoes, 6 nights of the week.
I asked SO what he wanted to eat for dinner tonight and he told me he had taken out a pound of hamburger. Now I do like hamburger but I am pretty burnt out on it since his parents have cattle and butcher often so our freezer is filled. We eat hamburger at least 1 night a week. If it were up to him we would eat hamburger 3-5 times a week. Right now I’m just not in the mood to eat hamburger, sit down to dinner with him or eat anything that is good for me. I want a Tostinos party pizza and I don’t want to have to share. I know it is better if we do but sometimes I just want to be like “Dude GET OFF MY BACK!” He honestly hasn’t done anything wrong and hasn’t been rude about it. I’m just moody. Maybe I’m in need of some personal space. There ends my rant about eating hamburger and sharing dinner.
Anyone else have a difficult time merging meal time traditions?
Post # 3
we usually don’t since our schedules are so weird (I’m full time grad and work, he’s full time work) and I’m on a special diet. I have noticed though since now that I am eating healthier, he has started.
Why don’t you try fish or pork chops?
Post # 4
I’m thinking about going to the grocery store to find something I’d rather cook for the two of us. Maybe then I won’t seem so crabby.
Post # 5
my favorite part of being an adult is that I can eat what I want when I want.
Post # 6
I guess I always had that luxury. I like to eat dinner with him but sometimes I just get the itch to exert my secret single behaviors and eat like I did when I lived at home.
Post # 7
We eat on the couch because the place is small and while we do have a table it’s just uncomfortable. We do talk about each other’s days etc when we get in. But dinner is usually accompanied by the TV.
Post # 8
do you tend to make the ground beef the same way? Maybe coming up with some new recipes would change your feelings about it?
Like thai lettuce wraps?
stuffed hamburgers (with cream cheese and roasted red pepper say)
middle eastern or indian kebobs (made this this weekend- I bought a seasoning packet though and with ground beef)
swedish or asian meatballs
stuffed peppers or tomatoes o zuchinni boats
taco salad, enchiladas etc
But we almost always eat together. If someone is working late the other will eat, but then sit with the other person. If a big game is on we will eat in front of the TV or if its a really easy food night like leftovers or just salads.
And often we will eat different things or rather variations of the same base meal to match our tastes health desires. sometimes its completely different.
Post # 9
I honestly can’t imagine eating dinner alone, but that’s because I always sat down and had dinner at a specific time. His family is gravitating to this routine more frequently now though it wasn’t always like that. We both enjoy eating together though.
Post # 10
I like that we eat dinner together every night but I am getting really tired of always having to cook stuff that he likes. I think he’s tired of not getting some of his favorite things, either. It gets really frustrating because he hates chicken, I don’t eat much dairy, I want to put eggplant and mushroom on everything, he refuses to eat my crazy health foods like quinoa and tempeh. We’ve found a bunch of recipes that work for us, but we’re getting kind of tired of them since it’s basically the same seven or eight dinners over and over again.
Blergh. That’s my whine.
Post # 11
Growing up it was every man for himself. My Dad is a military man and that’s what he used to tell us. He would walk out of the kitchen with a plate of food, look at us and say “I got mine!” My mom was a work aholic growing up and didn’t have time to cook, so my sisters and I would eat whatever was easiest. We all sat on the couch watching TV usually eating at different times. I’m not relaly sure how FI’s family dinner time was growing up. But we eat together just about everynight. We take turns cooking and we both have our specialties. We eat either on the dining room table or in the TV room tray tables.
Post # 12
Nearly every night. Fiance works until 8-830 at least twice a week and I even usually wait for him on those nights.
Post # 13
We eat together every chance we can get. But with our schedules it isn’t as often as we would like. We do, however sit around the computer (we don’t have cable) and watch a show on Hulu. When we do get cab;e and a DVR it will turn into eating in the livingroom while watching TV or at the table so long as we can see the TV. lol. Not sure how that is going to change once we have kids though.
Post # 14
We almost always eat together and we have hamburger at least once a week. I usually try to change it up to keep it from getting boring. I’ll make tacos, chili, goulash, baked ziti with meat, hamburgers, meatballs…anything to keep from eating the same thing every week.
Post # 15
He’s the same way with chicken. “We’re having chicken again? JEEZ.” But since I got pregnant I hate all meat and rarely EVER cook anything besides frozen pizzas haha. Last week he got shepard’s pie and corned beef and cabbage on back to back nights. He about had a heart-attack. 🙂
Post # 16
Thanks for the suggestions. That is most likely my problem. Hamburger = Cheeseburgers. Although I love them, every other night is excessive.
That’s how his was as well. I do enjoy eating with him but sometimes I get bucky.
Same here. Do you know of any really good cook books? We should have a weddingbee recipe swap!
That happens often with us as well. Does it bug you to eat that late or do you not mind? Don’t you get hungry waiting for him?
I thought we were the only ones who ate watching television. Maybe I’m not so strange after all.