Post # 1
So, I have stuggled with my weight for as long as I can remember. I was a chubby kid all my life, then a chubby teenager, and now, finally, a fat college graduate (professional student now). I’ had reached my all-time high: 200 lbs and a size 14. I have tried EVERY diet out there, multiple times. I lose weight, but I always yoyo and gain it back, sometimes more than before!
So, my new years resolution was to lose 1 lb a week by mostly cutting calories (pharmacy students don’t have time to exercise, silly!) and eating healthier. I’ve been super pleased and successful – in 7 weeks I have lost 7 lbs! EXACTLY on target with my goal. And, for the first time in my life, I haven’t yoyo-ed! Sustained weight loss, yay!
Anyway, since I started losing weight, people have been giving me their “tips” on how to lose weight FASTER. 100% of the time I say “Tried that, didn’t work.” They tell me I must have done it wrong and I just HAVE to try this new diet, it’s great. This is mostly unsolicited advice (Them: You look like you’ve lost weight? Me: Yeah, I’m losing slowly” Them: You’ll lose weight FASTER if…”).
I try to tell them that I don’t even want to HEAR their tips or tricks because, for the first time in my entire life, I am losing weight and keeping it off! I don’t want to get some super awesome fad diet idea stuck in my head that could get me off track (I’m super susceptible to the lose weight quick idea, as most of us are, I think). I literally have to walk away from these people or hang up when they just INSIST on giving the details of their awesome weight loss quick fix. I had to do one of those “Okay, bye!” and hang up quickly on my own mother today because she just wouldn’t SHUT UP about wanting to tell me all about this great new diet!
*Sigh* mostly a rant, but why can’t people just leave me and my 1 lb a week ALONE?!
Post # 3
Congrats on your weigth loss. Think if you keep it up for a year youd be bellow 150lbs. I dont believe in diets and completely understand students having a hard time to excercise. When I was in school the only workout I could get was doing stairs at the college randomly it was my fun.
Post # 4
@naturalysam: Exactly. I mean, I’m not sedentary, except for all the studying, but I am on my feet all day and moving around during rotations and community health service hours, but that’s pretty much it. I try to park my car at the back of the lot so I can get a couple more minutes of walking in, but as far as actually getting to the gym…HA!
Post # 4
Congrats! 1 pound a week is healthy and long-term sustainable. Whatever you’re doing is working for you, so don’t pay any attention to other people! When they say what you’re doing didn’t work for them, say, “I’m sorry, I’m having great luck with it. Everyone is built differently though” and change the subject!
Post # 5
The easiest response I’ve used regarding non-expert comments on anything health-related is this:
“I appreciate your opinion, but I’m doing things the way my doctor recommends.”
Insert the terms “trainer and nutritionist” if that works better for you, but either way, telling them you’re doing this your way for a reason tends to calm the commentators.
Also, try to answer compliments or comments about your success with a simple “thank you for noticing!” so they don’t have any ammunition for other comments.
FFR, these responses are useful for ANY unsolicited health topics, not just weight loss. Good luck!
Post # 5
You’re doing it right… and anyone who tells you differently can go eat a twinkie 😛
Post # 6
I would also make sure you don’t inadvertently TELL anyone that you’re trying to lose weight. If they just noticed a slimmer you and the convo came up as a result, that’s different of course. But just keep your strategy and plan to yourself, don’t even tell close friends or family…because everyone talks and it’s really no one’s business but your own.
That being said, congrats on the weight loss! 1 lb a week is sustainable and a great goal to have. Good luck for the future months!
Post # 7
Congratulations on the weight loss!
I agree with telling them that you’re just doing what the doctor ordered. People tend to chill out when they think a professional is in charge of your regimen. And, like you said, walking away is always an option, especially if the person is a repeat offender and you’ve previously told them not to offer you advice. It’s your body and your health, so you should do whatever you need to do to stay on track!
Post # 8
Any time someone says there is a “faster” way to lose weight (with the exception of surgical intervention), that method for most people will result in longterm weight gain. Honestly, you’re doing it the right way. I’ve read so many studies on interventions (I’m in psych research) and they all point to the same basic idea–small changes work better because they are easier to maintain and they build on each other, quick major changes to your diet or exercise don’t last long for most people. Congratulations on taking a very healthy approach to your weight loss goals!
ETA: I’d also say, the reason there is a ‘great new diet’ every week is because all the other ‘great new diets’ turned out not to work. It’s like that ‘great new wrinkle cream’ or that ‘amazing new psychic’.
As for that unsolicited advice? I agree with PP saying you’re following a doctor’s plan, and also saying studies suggest slow weight loss is more likely to be permanent weight loss because it is more likely to mean permanent lifestyle changes. Or tell them to suck it, which is what I’d do.
Post # 9
@pharmy: i fell ya pain. so many have heard stuff like that. Even yesterday there was one. Sooo annoying cos they dont know all the details, limitations, facts, etc…I just try to keep chill and remember that they’re only ttrying to help.
But if it gets really bad, I have turned the table and have given my unasked for opinion as well! For example, a friend (who is overweight as well) said that now that im engaged I should really get serious about my weight loss and shed a tonne of pounds. I was so bothered by that, that i responded that she should be even more worried cos she’s single in a see of singletons! That did the trick and now she doesn’t say a thing.
GL to you!
Post # 10
Why do random people think they have the right to comment on other people’s bodies? I would never go up to someone and start telling them about weight loss plans. If it’s a friend or family member and you’re having a conversation about it, that’s one thing. But people really need to learn to keep their mouths shut!
I agree with other posters that losing one pound a week is the healthy and sustainable way to lose weight. If it’s working for you, keep at it! Lots of those diets will let you lose a lot of weight fast, but it always seems to come back. Your way sounds more like a change in lifestyle than a diet, so it makes more sense long term. Congrats on your progress 🙂
Post # 11
Congrats on the weight loss! You are doing a great job!
Post # 12
Thanks for your comments, everybody. It just gets annoying with everybody seeming to think that losing 1 lb a week is just so “slow” and I should be losing like FIVE or something ridiculous (which I have before on things like Atkins or basiclly starving myself…yeah, because THAT worked out SO well!) like that!
Luckily, Boyfriend or Best Friend is super supportive and is really happy I am doing it this way, as he has been there to see me yoyo in the past and what it does to me, both physically and emotionally.
I like the idea of saying that this is what my doctor or nutrionist suggested, I think that will shut most people up. I don’t mind asking people to please not share their weight loss plans the first time, but when they INSIST, it grates on my nerves. Although I guess that is technically THEIR problem with boundaries and not mine lol