(Closed) No, I'm just going to drop out of school… Seriously?! [Just venting…]

posted 6 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Ha I am exactly like you, graduating in 2014. We are planning on a long engagement though, so we might be engaged by this fall. I know people are probably going to freak out…!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’m pretty sure this is just because she’s your great-aunt and so she’s old. No one who’s not old thinks you’re going to drop out of school because you got engaged. I wouldn’t worry about it. 🙂

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

People are annoying. That being said, just let it roll off your back. SHe’s probably stuck in a different time period. My mom got engaged in college and dropped out to get married and follow my dad to professional school.  I think it was definitely more common back then, so she’s probably just stuck in the stone age! 😉  Be prepared for people’s comments though – I’m sure you will get tons since you are so young! Good for you for keeping on track though! Congrats on your engagement and happy planning!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

As long as you’re doing well in school and not focusing only on the wedding, you will be fine! I have grad students who get married alllll the time. The ones that were doing well before they got engaged dont drop out. We do have those with a low GPA or problems doing research that use the wedding as an excuse to drop out. 

So, focus on your degree and you’ll be fine! 

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m an MIT educated scientist and people at work asked me if I was quitting work after getting married.

I didn’t even know how to respond to that. Sure, let me throw away my top notch education that I basically sacrificed my soul for now that i’ve got me a man. *rolls eyes*

People are stupid sometimes.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

In Aunt Lillian’s day, if a girl got engaged while she was still in school, it was understood that she would have no reason to finish school because she had already found a husband. It may sound silly these days, but that’s how it was.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@OneOfTheseDaysAlice:  that is exactly what I came here to say.

I slogged four years in one of the best engineering schools in the country and people ask me if I’m going to quit working now that I’m married. **EYEROLL*

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@crayfish:  haha! that made me laugh out loud (at work, oops!)

 

@CBA717:  I totally understand. I feel like I have 100 Aunt Lillians… I will be 21 when I get married and I will still have one semester left of school!! Heaven forbid!! It’s like people instantly forget that I have been a responsible, level-headed girl for my ENTIRE life…. At least “Aunt Lillian”s are truely just looking out for you…. Still annoying though…

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think it’s because she is your GREAT Aunt. My BFF’s mom dropped out of college one year before graduating to get married and BFF heard about it as a what not to do her whole life. I think it was not heard of in our parents’ generation to drop out to get married. I have another friend who was born her mom’s last year of college and it was completely shocking that her parents were married and had a child before graduating. Now, I work at a University and see this happening more often. Especially grad students seem to plan marriage and even babies into their last year of school.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Aboutfew out two months after I got engaged, I left my job for another company. On my last day, a man came to my desk to say goodbye and asked if I had something else lined up or if I was quitting because I was getting married. Lol right.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@OneOfTheseDaysAlice:  Yeah, this.

Although I got married during grad school and got the same comments.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

ooooh boy. that is not fun. I know b/c I am almost in your same situation.

23 years old, I graduated from university, and am currently applying to med school to enter ’13.

My mom couldn’t even be slightly happy for me when Fiance and I were first engaged, because she thought I wouldn’t become a doctor (and so what if i didn’t!?!). She also said to me, “You’re not getting married till after you finish medical school, right?” Yeah, that would be a 5-year engagement and a 10-year relationship for us. i think not.

Bottom line: I feel ya. We are adults and can make our own decisions. We already know education is important and it sucks that people don’t give us that credit.

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

@toasty:  OMFG I love your user name!! haha so cool/nerdy!

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@crayfish: Thanks! ATP are my initials, haha. btw, I see you’re having a wedding in Berkeley! I went to Cal! the bay is my real home :]

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