(Closed) No kid wedding but makinf exceptions for OOT guests

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Would you have kids at your wedding if there would be 50+ kids invited

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  • Post # 18
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    1243 posts
    Bumble bee

    So for people who bring their kids even though the were asked not to, what do they do for food? If the couple only budgeted for adults, how do these parents think their kids will be fed? Do they bring their own food for them? Do they pay for the extra meals? Do they expect the couple to just accommodate them? I’m very curious about this.

    Post # 19
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I think you should do whatever you’d prefer. It’s your wedding!

    I don’t agree with the “all kids or no kids” rule. I have about a dozen kids I am close with and they will CERTAINLY be invited to the wedding. However, some of our guests have kids who I have never met. (like my cousin who has 6 different kids with 4 different women. I’ve never met them and I don’t know any of their names. Sorry, your kids are not invited to my wedding).

    Plus, if I invited every single kid of every single guest, my guest list would be 400+ people instead of just 250ish.

    I can NOT afford/handle that many people!

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

    Post # 20
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    subscribing! I’m dealing with this right now! RSVP’s with kids added to them. UGH!

    Post # 21
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

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    @MissAndie:  Im interested to know how this works out for you since it looks like I will have this issue!

    Post # 22
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    My co-worker actually had a great idea.. 

    My venue has a large bridal room that doubles as a hang out room when not un use- there’s a tv, dvd player, gaming stuff, and air hockey table. My co-worker volunteered her niece to babysit if the venue would allow it, in that room to help accomedate the out of town guests’ kids if the invited guests bring them anyway. We could order pizzas too.

    Short of us paying the neice (happily), this may work.

    (I’ve seen this in other posts, just figured it would be for ones they knew about)

    Post # 24
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    no no no…. you can’t make exceptions for the Out of Town guests without seriously pissing off the locals.

    Post # 25
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    218 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

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    @rosworms:  I completely agree!

    Post # 26
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    412 posts
    Helper bee

    I’m going 100% childless with mine (except for first cousins, but we’re talking one 15 yr-old and one 17 yr-old) and I don’t have children, so i’m not necessarily qualified to speak on the subject, but my two cents to those parents who are saying they’d be unhappy to shell out for a sitter and then see kids there: those parents are shelling out for a hotel, and then either a flight, or hours of driving. You paying for a sitter for 6 hrs is likely less than the cost of just the hotel. Assuming there’s not too many Out of Town children, I would give them a pass. Try to offer a sitter, but if some aren’t comfortable with a sitter they haven’t personally vetted (which is fair imo), then let them come. If you think certain parents might be upset, I would maybe mention it in passing that a few kids were coming bc they had to fly in and there was no other alternative.

    Post # 27
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    The thing I don’t understand is that people find a sitter when they go on date nights or an adult only vacation so why can’t they do the same for a wedding? This topic is already driving me nuts : (

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