Post # 1
My mom is throwing me a pretty expensive shower and we agreed that no kids would be allowed. However, what I want to know is where is the cut-off point for kids? I have two cousins that are siblings and one of them has two high school aged daughters and the other has two middle school aged daughters. They are all really close so I feel like inviting one set and not the other would be rude. HOWEVER, one of the high school girls is a senior- practically an adult in my opinion. Would it be rude to leave her out as “one of the kids”? I don’t feel like we can invite just her and not the younger ones. But then if I invite all of them (the youngest is 12), I would feel rude leaving out the other little girls in the family. I really wanted this to be a ladies only type of thing, but I don’t want to offend anyone.
What would you girls do?
Post # 3
I would leave all of them out. Perhaps you can get together with the cousins for lunch on another day.
Post # 4
I clicked other, but I shouldn’t have. 18 and up is good. The kids would basically be the guests of your cousins, and guests are usually not included in shower invites. I can also only really see the senior in high school being upset.
Post # 4
How old are the high school kids? And which ones do you actually want to be there? We have a no kids policy for the wedding, but there is one that we wouldn’t mind having, so we decided on 12, so that way she could come, but the younger ones we could be OK saying “No” to since they were the primary concern for both behavior and safety reasons. Can you make the cut off sixteen, which is pretty much adult, so you can have the older ones there and feel comfortable leaving the younger ones out?
Post # 5
In your situation, I would not invite any of the under-18s. Although I’m sure the behavior of the oldest (and second-oldest, for that matter) would be absolutely fine, with whom would she socialize while she’s there? I remember being the only “young lady” at a shower — I was 16 — and the woman nearest in age to myself was the bride at 28. Even at my social and etiquette best I found it difficult to enjoy myself, and couldn’t really relate to all the wedding talk.
So, aside from potential boredom, it sounds as though this shower will be a place for adults. My opinion is to keep it a Ladies Only so as not to offend your cousins or their respective children.
Post # 6
I voted keep 18 y/o and up. We only invited FI’s cousin who has a son (he’s 9) because they’re very close family. My Future Mother-In-Law decided to add another one the list because she thinks the other kid (my FI’s nephew) will be bored before she even told us. We’ve been to family gatherings before and these 2 kids they don’t even speak to each other. Our caterer doesn’t do kids’ menu, that means we’re paying full price for these children even they’re under 10.
I like children but I don’t really want to have them at our wedding. Our ceremony starts in the afternoon followed by the reception at 6pm. The after dinner party will start around 8ish until 3am in the morning. What are the children going to do?