(Closed) No kids in the wedding… vent

posted 11 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 34
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570 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Don’t people WANT an excuse for a kid free night!?!?!?? I don’t understand it.

Post # 35
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9129 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Be direct about the venue size and budget.  But understand that it may cause some friends and family to decide not to attend.

Post # 36
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9129 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

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@MrsPeachMartini:  I agree with you.  Don’t people have a life without their kids?  Do they never go see a rated-R movie without their kids?  Fiance and I plan to have one completely kid-free night at least once a month if not once a week so we have alone time to maintain our relationship with each other.  Besides, I wouldn’t want to have to keep tabs on my kids all night (and honestly the reason I don’t want kids at my wedding is that most people’s kids behave horribly and I don’t want to deal with them while their parents get their drink and party on.)

Post # 37
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I totally agree that them asking to bring their children is super rude. You are hosting the event and you have dictated what type of event you would like to have.

That being said, we are having children at our wedding. I have a HUGE family with lots of children, and I just can’t envision my day without them there. I have been to several of my cousin’s weddings, and the children have always been well behaved and have enjoyed themselves tremendously. However, in our family, most of the children are extremely well-behaved, because the parents ensure that they are!

The only thing I don’t agree with, is the comment someone made that kids don’t like weddings. Some of my fondest memories are of the weddings I attended as a child!

Stick to your guns – this is your wedding, and it should be done your way, children or no children.

Post # 38
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I know this is an old topic, and Hostess

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@MightySapphire:  said this 2 years ago, but it is a GREAT QUOTE…

I don’t have anything against nursing mothers going to an adult only reception, because the babies don’t cost anything. They don’t take up a seat, they don’t eat food, they don’t destroy things. And most nursing mothers KNOW they should leave the room when the baby starts crying. But I just don’t understand how people with toddlers plus want to bring their bratty kids to a lavish EXPENSIVE affair! Would you bring your child to a $100 a plate charity dinner? HELLZ NO. Should they come to a fancy wedding. Um…no.

If only there was a way that Brides could convey this politely to their Guests… the reasoning makes perfect sense !!

I guess the thing is, in the case of a Wedding the Guests aren’t paying… so they just don’t seem to get it.

 

Post # 39
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570 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@Sheepshead:  This could very well be part of it!! lol.

I’ve also been to weddings where the kids are running around, sliding on the dance floor, and generally being obnoxious or making a mess of the table (spilling sugar packets, etc). Many- not all- parents view this as free time, assuming that oh there are 150 other adults, nobody will let them light anything on fire or get into too much trouble. Kind of like when you’re at the beach/pool, and parents are sunbathing while their kids swim- assuming that others will make sure they don’t drown. The fact that I sit on the edge of the pool while my stepson to be swims in our complex pool (with swimmies), shocks our lifeguard- she said you wouldn’t believe how many parents view it as a free babysitter. Drives me NUTS.

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