(Closed) no kids in wedding

posted 5 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

If they’re hinting you have to say something.  They probably automatically assumed they would be involved in the wedding.

Post # 4
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951 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Eh. My niece assumed on her own that she would be the flower girl or somehow involved in my wedding because she had been a flower girl in previous weddings… I want a kids-free wedding too, and my brother and his wife insist that they had nothing to do with their daughter’s desire to be my flower girl, lol.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@HisIrishPrincess:  +1

You might as well nip it in the bud now. I would just make it easy breezy and try not to justify it (that leaves room for them to try to argue). Just say that there will be no children in the Bridal Party and leave it at that.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I would just say something. We told everyone we were only having a ring bearer becuase we aren’t close enough with any young girls in the family to make them a flower girl. Mother-In-Law kept on and on about her step sister’s daughter, and we just put our foot down and said absolutely not.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee

@yippee62913:  I’m sure Lily’s parents do lots of things that don’t include her. If you don’t want kids then tell them it’s going to be an adults only ceremony and Lily can be a flower girl at the reception.  If you don’t want kids at all then put that in the invitation.  

It’s your wedding, I made the mistake of letting people making me feel guilty when I married my ex and ended up having a wedding with a bunch of things I didn’t want. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee

I have an idea: give Lily a special New Niece gift and outing, just with you and your Fiance.

I don’t really have a feel for how old she is, because I can’t imagine a 6-year-old dropping hints about being in the wedding, lol!  I just imagine flower girls as 7 and under, but that’s another topic entirely.

Anyway, I think if you take her out for a special day and give her a gift (read: bribe), and find an age-appropriate way to tell her why no children are coming to the wedding, her feelings will be saved and you’ll be in the clear with her parents/grandmother.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@yippee62913:  I would tell people now. Fiance and I are not having children in the wedding. We didn’t  like the idea of having children and he has 9 nieces and nephews (just 1 brother.lol) and everyone started making plans for the children to be in our wedding. So, we just told everyone advance. 

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@yippee62913:  just read the update… It is NOT your problem. I’m pretty sure there will be other weddings where Lilly can be a flower girl. Also, I’m sure she will understand if you explain in kid friendly language that no kids will be in the wedding.

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’ve definitely been to weddings with no child attendants! The only question is: if both her parents are IN the wedding, who is she going to sit with?

Post # 16
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@yippee62913:  Oh, okay! Have grandma and grandpa sneak her a lollipop to keep her quiet during the ceremony. She should be fine!

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