Post # 1
My family and I are planning a birthday party for my father. It’s an elegant event that will be catered and at a banquet hall. We do not want children to attend. We have a large Latino family that doesn’t really understand the “only the names on the invite are invited” etiquette rule. My sister suggested writing “Adult only reception” on the invite. I really don’t like that idea. We do plan to send electronic Save-The-Date Cards, is that an appropriate place to state that kids will not be invited? Any other suggestions for how to inform the guests other than the invitation will be appreciated. Also, any suggestions for language to use would be appreciated as well. Thanks.
Post # 3
The polite language is “adult only reception” or similar. I suppose you could be more outright and say “we regret that children are not welcome at the chosen venue” or something, but it might be pushing the limits of etiquette.
Also, if you are doing formal RSVP cards, it is appropriate to write “we have reserved 2 seats in your honor, /2 will attend /2 send their regrets” or whatever.
it is rude to outright state “no children permitted” you should be tactful if it is an elegant event.
Post # 4
Just to clarify, I don’t dislike the language “Adult Only Reception.” I don’t want to have that printed on the invitation. We are not doing formal RSVPs cards.
Post # 5
If you really think people will bring their kids, you might consider being proactive and hiring some babysitters for the event, and then just put “childcare will be provided” on the invites.
Post # 6
I think that “adult only reception” is fine to put on the invite, but only if you are trying to exclude young children. When my brother and I were still living at home, our family got an invite to my great uncles birthday party. The invite was addressed to the XX family and simply stated “no children please.” My brother and I were 18 and 21, respectively, so imagine my mothers surprise when she RSVPd for the four of us and was told that brother and I were not invited since we were considered “children.” It left me with a bad taste in my mouth and so I dont tend to consider my dads extended family as “my family.”
Post # 7
You might just have to say “This party will not be the most kid friendly so we kindly would appreciate only adults attending. Sorry for any inconvenience and Thank you!!”
Kinda long but it might be worth a shot!