(Closed) No kids. Period. Nil. Nadda. Nay. No way jose. Venting!

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

LOL Just tell her that you’re sorry she can’t make it and leave it at that.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Depending on where you live, sitters can run $15+ an hour for two children.  So, for a wedding, you’re talking about quite a bit of money.  If they’re on a tight budget, her comment about needing to budget for a sitter may not be a stretch.

If she brings up the no kids situation, just ignore her and change the subject.  As long as you engage with her, she’ll think there’s a chance you’ll just get frustrated and say “Ugh, fine, bring them!”  Don’t cave.  Don’t engage.  She brings it up, just say “You know children aren’t allowed at the wedding.  Did you guys end up going to that new restaurant this weekend?”  

 

 

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Sounds like someone is looking for attention! I’m with @vorpalette:, tell her you’re very sorry she won’t be able to make it. 

 

Not allowing kids at a wedding is super common nowadays!

 

 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Is there a reason you dont want your nephews at the rehearsal dinner?  I think it would be nice to let them go to that so the family can see them, since they are not going to be at the wedding.  

At my wedding we did not invite children aside from my neices & nephews.   

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Also, can her husband not watch the kids while she’s at the shower? Why does she need a babysitter for that?

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

@stuckinwonderland:  The babysitting thing could be true. I charge $10/hr $5 for an extra kid and $5 if they are diapers. 🙂 So could easily be $20 an hr. that could be like $60 for just 3 hrs. that’s pretty hefty.

 

I would be in the same boat as you OP, I’d want to call her and tell her off lol. But, you’re obviously classier than her so don’t sweat it!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

Yeesh, that would drive me insane.  I’m sure it would feel good to call her out, but doing so would only play into her games.  Best to ignore her complaints and stay firm. It’s not like you’re going to change the venue or timing of the wedding to something more kid-friendly anytime soon, so there’s no point in her complaining about it.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@emilyrose114:  Ughhhhh. Some people get so full of themselves when they have kids. Sounds to me like she jsut needs the attention.

 

I’d ignore her.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Well, while I hear what you are saying, I think it would be nice to consider a compromise on the Rehearsal Dinner since this will be your family soon.  You have to choose your battles.   

 

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@emilyrose114:  Tell her you plan on having alcohol, drugs, and strippers so child services would probably not be happy if any children attended.  Oh, and every guest gets a shot of Starbucks expresso and a free puppy.

Serious, some parents are just ridiculous.  These are the same people that will probably be divorced in 5-10 years because they focused all of their time and energy on their kids and completely neglected their relationship with their spouse.  We have a guy like this in our group; he attends everything alone because his wife can’t bear to spend any non-working hours without her children.  He just looks so sad and lost every time we see him.

 

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