Post # 1
We are having a birthday party for my father and there will be no kids at the celebration. I sent e-save the dates and decided to give everyone notice since my family has a TON of kids that it will be an adult only affair. I plan to send a paper invitation about a month before the event.
Within 2 minutes of my sending the save the date, my cousin emails and asks if her 13 year old can come. I responded, “Sorry, it’s 18 and over for the party.” To which she responds, “What ever happened to the parties where kids were invited?” So I responded, “What happened was you weren’t paying per person.”
Should I apologize? In the moment, I was so taken aback by her rudeness and now I feel may have gone overboard.
Post # 3
HAHA. Yeah. You need to apologize. You can say you’re just stressed and didn’t mean to lash out like that. You’re the hostess of an event, so you get to set the rules, but don’t forget to be hospitable.
Post # 4
That is hysterical and wrong, and yes apologize.
Post # 5
I really don’t think you went too far. Most parties DO invite kids so every once in a while its nice to have one WITHOUT kids! I would just of wrote a LOL after what you said to make it kinda come acrossed as serious but still getting your point acrossed. Don’t apologize. If she was willing to snap back with that remark then she was asking to get a response like you gave!
Post # 6
I would say that you were sorry (just stressed) but I also would say something like, “What happened to the kids parties was that you never host them :P”
Post # 7
Why apologize? You told her the truth, that you’re paying per person, not that her kid was a brat.
Post # 8
I think you should have said the same thing, just in a slightly softer way.
Something like “Unfortunately, there is not enough in the budget to invite everyone’s children. Thank you for understanding.”
Post # 9
Teehee, I like your response! Thoughtless question = thoughtless response. But yeah depending on your tone, you may need to apologize.
Post # 10
LOL!! Thanks so much for that giggle. I really needed it. I would’ve said the same thing but I wouldn’t have felt bad about it later on though and depending on which family member it was I would’ve told them I didn’t want their bad @$$ kids running around messing stuff up. Some people just don’t understand that every event is not a kid event. If you’re feeling bad though call and apologize for the way it came out.
Post # 11
HAH it sounds like a response I would give if stressed. You can just apologize but if she gets angry, don’t stress about it. Also, you asked no kids, and 13 year olds are not adults….as much as they would like to be!
Post # 12
I would apologize. And while I get that you have a budget and planned adults only, so I would never have asked her question or given her response, I know my kid would be bummed that she didn’t get to go… she loves birthday parties no matter who it”s for. 🙂
Post # 13
I would definitely appologize!