Post # 1
We are having a birthday party for my father and there will be no kids at the celebration. I sent e-save the dates and decided to give everyone notice since my family has a TON of kids that it will be an adult only affair. I plan to send a paper invitation about a month before the event.
Within 2 minutes of my sending the save the date, my cousin emails and asks if her 13 year old can come. I responded, “Sorry, it’s 18 and over for the party.” To which she responds, “What ever happened to the parties where kids were invited?” So I responded, “What happened was you weren’t paying per person.”
Should I apologize? In the moment, I was so taken aback by her rudeness and now I feel may have gone overboard.
Post # 3
@jjilyeah: Okay lol, that was a little snotty of you to say, BUT I think she kind of deserved it and it made me laugh. I think that may be fun to do an adults only party for your dad! How old is he going to be?
Post # 4
lol well it was kinda rude. but so was her comment. I’d say it depends on your relationship with her. if she’s going to hold this grudge forever apologize, if not i’d just let it go and maybe take a breath before responding to the next rude comment 🙂
Post # 5
Whoops. Ya, I would probably say sorry, you were having a bad day and didn’t mean to be snippy, but the budget/space/insert other white lie here can’t accomodate all the kids unfortunately.
Post # 6
I think it wasn’t the politest way to say it, but then you had already gone the polite route by saying it was over 18. I would say it was blunt rather than rude, and a solid reason. No apology needed.
Post # 7
LOL i kinda laughed so I say no, whatever. She asked a rude question and she got a snarky answer, but it’s not like you said, “Bitch you aren’t paying!!!!”. And frankly, i think she kinda deserved it with her tidbit about “what happened when kids weren’t invited”. She’ll get over it.
Post # 8
Ugh. One of my pet peeves is people who are attached at the hips to their kids and think they have to bring them everywhere!
That said, I do think you should probably apologize if only for the sake of family harmony. Maybe omething along the lines of, “hey, I’m sorry if my last e-mail sounded rude – I wrote it in a hurry and wasn’t thinking. Unfortunately, this time out we can’t accommodate the kids but I really hope you can still make it.”
Good luck fighting the “no kids allowed” battle!
Post # 9
If it’s not like you to be sarcastic/blunt, then yes, you should apologize. It was funny though.
Post # 10
lmao, congratulations for saying what we’re all thinking. But yeah… I would definitely apologize.
Post # 11
well i think based on her rude question that you shouldn’t apologize, but then again I don’t know your relationship with her. I mean, you were nice the first time when you wrote it on the invite, why does she think her kid is the exception?.
Post # 12
Like PPs have said, you probably should apologize but we would have wanted to say the same thing.
It really depends on your relationship with her though.
Did she respond to that e-mail?
Also, I’d be careful about saying the reason there are no kids is because of cost, that sometimes leads people to offer to pay for their kids plate and then you are in even more of a bind if you really don’t want kids there.
Post # 13
This made me laugh!
You could apologize but it’s not like you were really mean – just bluntly to the point.
Post # 14
LOL thanks everyone. It is pretty hilarious and the story of my life. I’m pretty direct normally. She and I are close so I don’t think she’ll hold a grudge. My dad is turning 60.
Post # 15
LOL Good job on saying what everyone else would have wanted to say but Yeah, you should probably apologize.
Post # 16
I thought it was funny, maybe a little snarky, but not really rude. Her response was rude, so I am sure you just got a little defensive – she is the rude one!