Post # 32
I know this post is way old, but since it just popped up again, I’ll chime in. If the real intention, as stated by the OP, is for the guests comfort: “so that the parents can relax and not worry about the little ones“, then the best bet is to give parents the choice. Invite the kids and leave it up to the parents to decide whether it will be more relaxing, fun, and/or convenient to bring them or to make other arrangements. If you don’t want the kids there, then it’s a completely different question. But if you’re trying to help the parents out, that’s best done by giving them the choice.
Post # 33
And not only would it be best to give them the choice, it also makes the arrangments around that choice their responsibility. But please, give them the choice if its for their benefit. And be sure to negotiate a kids price when booking your venue.
Post # 34
I hate to be rude…and yes I don’t have children so I don’t understand but about 30% of the guest list is Out of Town for my wedding and really don’t want children there but I really feel I have no choice but to invite them or be rude.. There isn’t any other ideas I can find that will work. Even with only out of town guest bringing children I’m looking at 20 kids..and I secretly pray the people with children either decide to find a babysitter locally and take a mini vaca or don’t come. I really don’t enjoy more then a few children at a wedding and frankly some people(not you ladies of course) don’t get that what they think is cute for there child to do isn’t cute to others. I have read several stories where children at weddings with their parents watching rip down decor,ect and I fear that may happen at mine.
Post # 35
@Mrs. Charlotte: If you don’t want children at your wedding, don’t invite them. It really is that simple. It is not rude for you to invite who you want to a party you are hosting. As long as you provide them notice they will either make arrangements or decide they can’t come. It seems from your post you wouldn’t mind if they decided not to come so why take the chance that they come with their kids? I understand the situation because it was ours, trust me if people want to be there, they will so long as you give them notice. The majority of the declines we got were for the LAMEST excuses.