(Closed) No kids wording in FAQ section on wedpage.

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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587 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I have no idea what the rules are but if you weren’t having any kids there I would say something about you wanting everyone to have lots of fun and be carefree so please leave the kiddies at home but since SOME kids will be there.. I dunno. I have the same concerns so I’ll be interested to see what people say!

Post # 4
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1243 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

How many people have kids who won’t be invited?  Honestly, if it were me, I would call them and let them know- if you’re worried that they will just bring their kids.  You can also have a note on your RSVP cards “We have reserved


spaces in your honour” and fill in the number yourself for the amount of people the invite is for.

I think that the wording on the website will be difficult because you are inviting some kids (which, btw, I think is fine).  It might be difficult to explain that you’re having kids of the bridal party and Out of Town. That might work in person, but if you actually write it down, you may get people arguing “why do their kids get to come?”, etc.  

We put a note on our website because we were only inviting one baby who was still breastfeeding.  I wouldn’t have put a note at all (we weren’t dealing with THAT many possible kids), but we had friends that we spoke to a year in advance “forget” and ask to bring their kid and set up a pack and play.  lol  That got shut down immediately.

 

Post # 7
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1243 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@mrsjjohnson2b:  LOL!

I think that the wording of your message is fine, but I would add “immediate” in front of family.  I’d say something like “Due to circumstances, we are only able to extend invitations to children in our immediate families.  We thank you for understanding and hope that you will be able to join us on such-and-such a date”.  If you say “Special Day”, that might make parents pissy.  Do not get into specifics with people who complain.  “Circumstances” covers many things- budget, space, etc.

Also, I’d add another line under a different heading on your website about the Mixer.  I think that you might confuse people (even though your intial message is pretty clear) that there are two distinct events going on; one that is kid friendly, one that is less so and is on a different date.

We had guests RSVP by email and included the little note about spaces reserved with the RSVP instructions.  You can also set something up like online this depending on how people are RSVPing (email, online service).  I know that other ‘Bees have mentioned an online RSVP service that doesn’t allow guests to add extra people.

Post # 9
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304 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

In our FAQ section we have put:

Can we bring our children?

Our wedding is an adults only event, with the exception of immediate family, and we thank you so much forunderstanding. If you have any trouble organizing care for your children, please contact us so that we can assist you.

 

(Our wedding is out of town…)

So far we haven’t had any issues 🙂

Post # 10
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8430 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I actually think a few parents will get offended in your case. If there are only one or two kids around that were because they were family/wedding party fair enough but when 25 plus kids are running around I think other parents might raise an eyebrow or two!

I think most kids look forward to weddings more than adults- it is a big exciting adult thing that they get to be a part of! I would hate to for the child not invited (especially the one told there were no kids going) to see photos with kids in them! Kids just don;t understand all the details and especially lying.

Post # 12
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597 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I do not envy the task you have at hand…. Best of luck! 

Post # 13
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786 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I wrote this on our website:

Are children invited? To allow all guests to relax and enjoy themselves, we have chosen for our wedding day to be adults only and we request you leave your young ones at home. Please contact us with any questions! We thank you for your understanding and hope arrangements can be made that allow you to still attend our big day.

And wrote on the RSVP invites “We have reserved __ seats for you” (something along those lines).

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