(Closed) No kiss for Jewish Brides?

posted 10 years ago in Jewish
Post # 3
Member
116 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2007

that’s what we did. it’s pretty natural, esp if your guests all know to say Mazel Tov after the glass is broken (we had an Jewish-interfaith ceremony so half the guests were instructed by the Rabbi right before the glass breaking as to what to do). When the crowd starts shouting and the recessional starts playing, it’s only natural to want to embrace and kiss!

Post # 4
Member
1061 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Our rabbi is saying it after we break the glass. There’s no reason why yours can’t say it then. Rabbis have the strangest quirks about weddings, for some reason.

Post # 5
Member
293 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

My rabbi said the same, he is fine if we kiss at anytime and suggested it might make sense after the breaking of the glass but there is just no place for it in the ceremony–meaning NO PLACE FOR HIM TO SAY THE WORDS.  I dont think he was being quirky-he’s so open with us about everything.  I’m sure your rabbi means the same but you should check!

Post # 6
Member
311 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2008

Our rabbi also said to kiss right after breaking the glass.  He says they do not say ‘you may now kiss the bride’ because the guy never asks permission of the rabbi to kiss the bride in the first place.

Post # 7
Member
105 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

Ditto mrsbear… I hadn’t really thought about it or planned for it beforehand, but it happened naturally with the flow of things right after the glass breaking and as everyone started cheering.  Good luck!

Post # 8
Member
127 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Traditionally, there is no kiss — it’s not tzniut.  Liberal streams of Judaism have naturally incorporated more modern culture and I’d say this has been absorbed as an American wedding custom in general but it’s not a Jewish one, so it makes sense that there’s not a place for it (the words anyway :)).  I have been to plenty of Jewish weddings where the couple did kiss and it absolutely feels natural and normal at the end of the ceremony even if the rabbi doesn’t say anything.

My Fiance and I are Conservative but we are not kissing after the glass is broken.  There’s plenty of time in yichud for that! 🙂

Post # 9
Member
293 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

YIKSA:  Is there plenty of time in the Yichud?  How much time are you taking for yours?  Anyone care to weigh in?  I am seriously worried we dont have enough time for pictures etc Thanks

Post # 10
Member
127 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

jul–are you asking if there’s plenty of time in yichud for kissing?  Yes, of course.  The amount of time people take for it varies though — we are doing 20 minutes I guess.  I’ve heard of people being in yichud for much longer but I think it would be boring.

Have you considered doing photos before the wedding?  We are doing that because we want to get the reception/dinner going once we’re married.  I know many people like to not see each other before the ceremony (or at least before the ketubah signing) so I understand that too.

Post # 11
Member
2299 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

my fiance and i are going to kiss right after the glass breaking too. i think it will flow way better that way=)

Post # 12
Member
1080 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

This is also a problem for Catholic weddings. There is no time to do “the kiss” I really like the ideas for after the glass breaking, very natural place for it.

Post # 13
Member
3316 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Our rabbi told us that there is no place for him to tell us to kiss, because he didn’t think we needed his permission.  However, we went ahead and kissed after the glass was broken–if only in relief, because we had a lot of trouble breaking it.  😉

Post # 14
Member
156 posts
Blushing bee

lol 2dBride 🙂 I definitely want my kiss!!

Post # 15
Member
1363 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

We kissed after the glass was broken, and we took about 15 minutes for yichud.

The topic ‘No kiss for Jewish Brides?’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors