Post # 1
I will try to make this very short. I do not know what to do. I have a friend who i have known for 10 years. She was supposed to be a bridesmaid but at this point she is no longer invited to the wedding. I am honestly sick and tired of her! For example, she would make comments like “I would wear an Oscar de la renta dress for my wedding.” Or, “why are you getting married if you can’t afford to have a huge exspensive wedding? I would’nt want a half-ass wedding!” She called my wedding half-ass because I told her I would not have open-bar all night! Mind you, she is 25 and has never lived away from her mom and dad. She has never owned a car!!! I am not trying to put anybody down and have never said anything to her about her current situation but she is delusional! When I told her that fi and I were buying our first house she said, “it better have a pool! what is a house withour a pool!” UGH! She has even insulted my career choice!!! She claims to work the front desk in a medical office and would say, “the nurses are all so miserable and have a bad attitude. It is not my fault that they did not go to med school and have a shitty job!” She claims to be in medical school but I do not believe her at all! She is very secretive and has way to much time on her hands and I have caught her in a number of lies!
Even after all her comments I was going to have her be a bridesmaid. I thought maybe she is a bit jealous and it would pass. Well, I have not heard from her at all. Last time I heard from her was when I tried to schedule a day to try on Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses. She texted me saying she was busy. That was 2 months ago! I have left her messages and have sent emails! My sister ever tried to contact her about my bridal shower. I am hurt and in shock my her behavior! I would never do this to her! 🙁
I am sorry if my post is confusing. I am venting as I type.
Post # 3
Been there!! I had a BM/friend who acted just like this. She made little comments when I started planning about what I HAD to have, and I kept explaining we were paying for everything ourselves. We bought a house and it wasn’t good enough either!! I am 33 years old. She is 24. Now that she is engaged and didn’t ask me to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man, she started throwing her weight around like MY wedding will have this this and this…uh yeah, your parents are paying for the whole thing while you rent a crappy apartment and have never owned a car or had real bills!! Seriously at 24 she’s still completely dependent on her parents (she’s not in school, and only works part time). She gave me the dis so I had to finally give it back. I tried for way too long! Next
Post # 4
i think you are doing the right thing by not having her as a bm or even at the wedding.
weddings are expensive and it doesn’t sound like she will even appreciate it. she already doesn’t seem supportive at all.
she doesn’t deserve to be your friend.
Post # 5
@MississippiQueen: They sound like the same person. Only my “friend” is single and her parents do not make a lot of money. I do not understand where she gets this kind of mentality!
@mypinkshoes: Unfortunitely, I know you are right. I think she already made it clear that she will not be at the wedding. I can’t believe her!
Post # 6
Lol I work front desk at a medical office (well, the emergency room) and I do NOT make enough money to be bragging about anything. Granted, I am in school right now but the pay where I’m at now SUCKS so I don’t see how hers could be better than a licensed nurse. She’s petty and I wouldn’t give her the time of day!
Post # 7
It’s sad how this generation is full of entitled people. The worst is when they’re entitled AND too lazy to put in the work in order to fulfill their expectations. They just expect everyone else to fulfill them.
Glad to see bee’s who are hard-working and sane!!!
Post # 8
@StefLovesJamie: I also work the front desk while in school to be an RN. However, I do not believe she even works! When I asked her where she worked she mentioned a hospital. I then told her I have a friend that worked at the same hospital and she began backtrack and say that she worked the night shift for a plastic surgeon. She would not give me any more details and said it was very exclusive! WTF! I did not push the subject because it is none of my business where she works…
Post # 9
Hahaha ok well she’s obviously lying because nobody has a job while they’re in med school, and plastic surgeons don’t do surgery during the night lol. She’s got something wrong that she feels the need to lie like this.
Obviously, I think that you’ve made the right (and probably only) choice.
Post # 10
Sounds like this is a person you don’t need at your wedding – or in your life!
Post # 11
Some people are too much drama! Friendships should be give and take, support…not lies and badmouthing!
Post # 12
DANGER, DANGER: This person is NOT someone you want to be in your life. I’m guessing you became friends young, or in school, etc… and have grown up together. I find that people that have friends that are histrionics, or compulsive liars, grew up around them and didn’t realize how toxic they were until they really got out on their own. A former best friend of mine was like this, a friend of a friend was like this, etc… I’ve seen this EXACT formula (right down to the “making TONS of money… oh, no you can’t visit me at work” weirdness of not really having the job they say). It’s usually a result of that person’s crippling insecurities. It’s sad; your friend probably is writhing with jealousy and insecurities, and that’s why she’s acting the way she is. She’s not TRYING to hurt you; she’s trying to hurt less. Nonetheless, unless you’re willing to take the time, energy, and stress to talk to her, acknowledge her behavior and lying… then you really are better off without her. These sorts of behaviors are legitimate psychological issues, and though you want to help, sometimes it’s beyond your control.
Post # 13
Whoa a piece of work. She is going to make you feel like a terrible person when you tell her. It’s all a part of her game. Misery loves company. Good Luck!