(Closed) No longer interested in being involved in this wedding.

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 62
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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@1stRosie:  Ummm…. Usaully, I’m pretty willing to let anger go towards miscommunication instead of each other if no malice was involved in a dispute.

 

Usually

 

You’re friend has gone absolutely bat shit crazy. I don’t know what her squishy littlle brain will have been reduced to after her wedding, but being a bride does not give you the right to stop being a decent human being. Eventually, she’s going to have to get back to reality (unless she just plans to pop out babies evrey other year for the rest of her child bearing days to be able to find something else to make her seem important and throw parties about?)

 

Ughhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh. *barf barf barf barf barf*

Post # 63
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

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@1stRosie:  =) please let us know how this all turns out! Out of SEVEN bridesmaids, are you the only one who is voicing a problem with the expense of all of this?? I can’t fathom my friends (both rich and poor) expecting me to spend as much as you have spent on parties & shit BEFORE the actual wedding. We are also doing a DW/elopement…it’s a bit of a mix because there will be some people coming but not many (maybe 10 including parents). I wouldn’t be upset as a friend if another friend was choosing to elope. That has NOTHING TO DO WITH ME! How would it possibly be my place to have a problem with it??? I would just celebrate the hell out of the marriage when my friend got back!

Sorry your friend sucks lol

Post # 64
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Glen Sanders Mansion

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@1stRosie:  

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@peachacid:  +1.  This is what I think.  It sounds like her feelings are/were hurt and she is still holding on to that anger/frustration. 

Should she still be upset? Probably not, especially after you explained to her your reason for not inviting her to the engagement party. In the grand scheme of things, it’s not a huge deal, but she may have felt slighted.

If the reason she is being such a beast is because she is upset with you over your decisions regarding your wedding, well that is just dumb.  She needs to grow a pair and talk to you honestly instead of being passive aggressive and rude.  It’s YOUR WEDDING, and you can do whatever you’d like with it.  And side note — why did she book any aspect of her shower?  That is supposed to be the Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man job. 

Weddings are supposed to be fun and I am sorry that there is drama surrounding her wedding.  It’s a shame it has come to this, you must have been/still are pretty close if you would have made her your Maid/Matron of Honor if you’d had a wedding that necessitated one.

Don’t take what she is saying about your wedding to heart.  I hope you two are able to sit down and speak to one another honestly about the things that are bothering you both.

Post # 69
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Yeesh, what is it about weddings that seem to bring out the worst in people?

OP, I would definitely step away from this train wreck! She is being a bridezilla and that’s just not OK. 

I totally do not understand where this “princess for a day” mentality has come from. I got irritated with my BFF’s bachelorette party because the girl who organized it wanted us to all wear a certain kind of dress…that seems pretty tame compared to this! 

I can totally sympathize…another time, a friend picked out some bridesmaids dresses that were WAY out of my budget. As in, like $150 more than I had planned for. (That didn’t include alterations, special bra, etc.)  She was so NOT a bridezilla that I didn’t know what to say. Luckily, I managed to find it for a slightly better price, but if I hadn’t been able to, I don’t know what I would have done. At the time, it was money that I just did not have. 

Post # 70
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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@1stRosie:  I dont think I could be friends with this person anymore.

Post # 71
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

this is just nuts! she needs a reality check!

 

Post # 72
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

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@1stRosie:  If you can’t see why someone would be upset that you chose to exclude them from your wedding, AND your engagement party…then I can’t help you.  She is upset because she perceives that you hurt her.  You are refusing to see that.  Good luck with this one!

Post # 73
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Meg sounds like an idiot, who may have to claim bankruptcy in a few years.. or file for divorce.

Meg’s nuptuals are exactly what’s wrong with weddings, she’s gone and made an entire year of everyone’s lives  about her. Something tells me Meg is a selfish brat in regular life as well.

Post # 74
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Helper bee

I can’t possibly see how it’s unreasonable of you to not invite her to your wedding. You’re not inviting anyone! That’s a completely different situation to you inviting other people and NOT HER. Likewise, the engagement ‘party’ seemed to be more of an informal get-together with your local friends (I’m right in assuming that you didn’t invite anyone else from out of town??). She’s only excluded from your wedding in the sense that everyone else is, and all your out-of-town friends from your engagement ‘party’.

 

Post # 76
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Does anyone else wonder “Who are these people?”. I just cannot fathom ordering so many people to do what you want without a thought about how it impacts them. Do you think they are already slightly selfish people and the wedding brings it out, or is it all the wedding buzz that turns a sweet person into someone selfish because they feel it’s their chance to be the center of attention? Any thoughts?

 

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