Post # 92
@1stRosie: Yeah no, you cannot spend $$ on her wedding that almost equals how much you are spending on yours!! Surely she needs to understand you can’t attend everything. Your Miami trip would I say count as a pre bachelorette with her (although it didnt sound that way! sorry) but I mean you spent money on a trip to go away with her.
I would say see you guys at the wedding! I have my own to plan.
P.S. just saw in an update she called you selfish..pssh! How rude. Obviously you aren’t since you have let her take the spot light during the time you should enjoy being a bride-to-be.
Post # 93
I am going to get hate mail for this but… when you agree to be a Maid/Matron of Honor or BM there are certain financial and time responsibilities that come with it. When you accept the offer to be in a wedding you are accepting all responsibilities that come with it. You could have declined or when you became engaged had a heart to heart with her saying that you can no longer afford to be in her wedding party but can’t wait to celebrate with her at the wedding, shower, ect. I hate how people complain about being in a wedding and the financial/time responsibilities with it. You are not forced into being in the wedding party and everyone knows there are high costs to being in one. In My Humble Opinion you should have declined. If she drops you as a Bridesmaid or Best Man then that solves your problem and you shouldn’t be upset with her. This is her event and she has the right to enjoy it in the way she wants. If you were going the traditional route you would expect the same of your wedding party and be hurt if they were not participating fully.