Post # 1
Since the end of last week I’ve made it a point to pretty much stop looking at/ talking about/ even thinking about anything wedding related. It has given me time to get over my last disappointment and try to enjoy the time i’ve spent with my guy. I have also made it a point to not discuss anything wedding related with my guy, and he hasn’t talked about it either. I think he finally realized how much the waiting was bothering me, and how much it hurt the last time I was expecting a proposal and it didn’t happen.
I’m kind of thankful for the break. I was hoping to be engaged before the fall, so that I wouldn’t have to go through another anniaversary when people start to ask. Now, I realize that my guy wants to surprise me, and there is no way that he can really do that if I’m totally obsessing and become depressed at the mention of anyone else getting engaged.
We have another date night planned for Monday. While I hope to have wonderful news to share with the hive soon, I am not going to hold my breath. I’m sure that my guy will surprise me eventually, and I am really trying not to ruin it by being so anxious.
Post # 3
Has he shown any signs of looking to purchase the ring or that he already has it?
Post # 4
We have looked at rings for over a year, about a year and a half. but no, there are really no signs that he already has an engagement ring. we went looking the last time about two weeks ago, but he’s not been anywehre except work and the grocery store since then.
Post # 5
Love this —-> “I’ve made it a point to pretty much stop looking at/ talking about/ even thinking about anything wedding related. It has given me time to get over my last disappointment and try to enjoy the time i’ve spent with my guy.”
It’s so easy to get caught up in the OMGI’mAlmostEngaged!! mania and forget that it’s the little, day-to-day moments that we get to spend with each other that make our relationships so happy and wonderful that we DO want to marry our guys!
I’m in a very similiar spot. Just enjoying the ride with no expectations…. 🙂 Glad you are too!
Post # 6
Thanks. Its getting easier every day. 🙂
Post # 7
I’ve been with my guy for enough years that people have asked, “So, when are you getting a ring?” (Rude, right?) Three weeks ago I told my boyfriend, “You know what? I’m in no rush. As long as we’re together, I’m happy.” And just last week he proposed!
Just goes to show you, it could very well happen when you least expect it. You’re being smart by taking time to enjoy the present rather than constantly look towards the future.
From the sound of it, there’s definitely a proposal somewhere up the road. Take time to enjoy the scenery on the way there! 🙂
Post # 8
@MissPatience:I agree that you should just enjoy each day with your SO. I am trying to do the same….and each day with him is amazing! I know my ring will come (hopefully sooner than later!!) so I have forced myself not to get my hopes up when we plan date nights or weekends away.
@robotpolkadot:Congrats on your engagement!!!
Post # 9
Urg. I’m trying to be as patient as I can but I have the nosiest people in the world in my family. My mom asks nearly everytime I come back from his place if we’re getting married, the others aren’t much better. GAH.
I really am in no real rush due to credit debt and such but I want a committed relationship.
Post # 10
I try to be patient but it’s hard when everyone is constantly asking me when we are getting married. Our anniversary was this past weekend and I hoped there would be a proposal but sadly no ring yet 🙁 My dad is even bugging now and before we went out on Sunday, he asked if I would be getting a ring that day. Thanks dad, way to run it in.
I know there is no big rush or anything, but we are in our late 20’s and been together quite awhile so I think it’s only normal to be antsy about getting engaged and finally taking our relationship to that next step.
Post # 11
*hugs* I hope he asks soon!