- 5 years ago
I am incognito for this post. My whole world has been turned upside down and I am so upset I can barely function.
My bf and I have known each other since 2009. We got together in early 2011 and have been exclusive (or so I thought) for over a year. We talked of future plans – we are both “country folk” and we talked of someday getting a small farmette to riase chickens and goats, as well as much of our own food. So naturally I believed we were headed for marriage!
We do not live together and our time is limited as I work Mon-Fri and he works odd jobs during the week and two jobs on the weekends. Still we always managed to have good times together and had a vibrant sex life.
Well everything has fallen apart! It began in January, when I got a really bad case of the flu, followed by an UTI. Add to that the fact that there have been positions eliminated where I work. Our section had 3 staff and 3 administrative assistants. Now there are two of us and one administrative assistant but there is more work than before the lay-offs. This means I have been working much harder than before, often having to take work home to get everything done.
Last Thursday I got a call from bf, asking me to stop over. I told him that I could not – that I had a meeting to go to and a ton of work to finish. I could tell by the silence he wasn’t happy about that. A few hours later I got as FB message from him, about how he is feeling “neglected” and that he “is a man. SO I love to fu*k, need to fu*k, and have to fu*k” and that I continued to “neglect” him, that he would start “stepping out” to find someone to “fu*k with”.
I am like whoa! I know it has been a month since we have had sex, but I was sick for three weeks and work has been over-whelming. That I would try to visit him ASAP, but apparently that is not good enough! HE claims that he has women who proposition him all the time and if I didn’t drop everything and see him IMMEDIATELY, that he would be “forced” to go elsewhere.
WHO is this person? I actually called him because at first I though maybe someone got into his account and snet me a bogus message. Nope, he sent it and he meant every word.
I am totally shocked and beyond sad. Yes, the sex between us is fantastic, but I thought we had way more than that. To make matters worse, the next tweo days he tested my best friend “inviting” her to come visit him for some coffee! WTF! Since I told my best friend what was up, she reported this to me and showed me the texts! He has never invited her to come visit before and this happened the days afterr the FB message!
I don’t even want to talk to him right now. I am so upset!