Post # 107
I just wanted to say sounds like you made the right choice!! And I can totally see how venting your frustrations could be theraputic… now just refer back to that list if he (or another smiliar waste of your time) comes around again! 🙂
Post # 108
***Standing up and applauding***!
First, let me say that your late night text and questions are perfectly normal. This is not a sign of weakness in the least. Hell, you DESERVE answers. As much as we all have tried to find them, the answer is that there is no answer. Second, and most importantly, what you did should be a lesson to anyone else who sees these signs (or similar) and ignores them or puts up with them. I say that because I was with my ex-fiance for 3 years before I realized “what the hell is wrong with me??? I deserve better” and later kicked myself a bit for wasting so much time with him when I knew all along he wasn’t the one!
I see you originally posted this a month ago and time does heal all wounds so I hope by now you are happy, possibly dating again, and maybe you don’t even need “the list” anymore. I admire you 🙂
Oh, and I’m all for venting. Where else better to vent than on a board full of women who have been in similar situations? If you can’t vent here, what’s the point of different categories?
Post # 109
I want to stand up and applaud too – I’m very proud of you and I KNOW you did the right thing. I’m in a similar situation right now feeling like I’m not good enough and “why doesn’t he love me enough.” I don’t have the “girlfriends” issue and he definitelly wants sex with me, and he says “I love you” but he isn’t sure “if he ever wants to get married” and is “afraid of losing his independence.” Oh, and you’lll love this one: “I need to figure out why I have this emotional block.” This after 3 years of dating and after planning to move in together.
So, I only hope if things don’t change soon I can be as strong as you. You are my hero! Hang in there and DON’T give in.
I also get the texts and calls, I did it all last week. but, I have 0 desire to do it anymore. In fact, he’s been calling and texting me for 2 days and I just don’t answer.
Good luck to you, you know deep down you did the right thing and feeling sad and lonely is totally normal. It’ll pass.