(Closed) No “Maid of Honor”

posted 10 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

My sister in law did not have a Maid of Honor. We were all close to her in different ways/ times in her life. We all planned a shower together and for her line, she just arranged us by height. If they are all equally close to you, I don’t see a need for a Maid/Matron of Honor.

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

I have five best friends, and four were all listed as my maids of honour on the program, while my one guy friend was made a groomsman. You shouldn’t have to choose, especially if they all mean so much to you. Plus, I know certain people within my group would have been heartbroken if I didn’t choose them as my Maid/Matron of Honor. I had five fabulous friends who stepped up to the plate in their own ways to help prepare for and celebrate my wedding, and I couldn’t have been happier.

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2009

vnichole – I don’t have a maid of honor either! I just have 4 awesome bridesmaids that I didn’t want to choose between. =P

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

Oh, and like mrshudson‘s SIL, I arranged my MOHs by height! They had personal wars against each other to have the highest heels, though… which was funny since the groom and I are so much shorter than they all are.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Choosing an Maid/Matron of Honor was a very stressful situation for me, and if I could go back, I wouldn’t do it. I’ve known most of my BMs for 18 years or more, and there was some serious jealousy going on after I chose. I never realized being Maid/Matron of Honor could be so important  because I do love them all equally. I ended up choosing the one friend I’ve known longest, 19 years, and he’s not the Maid/Matron of Honor, he’s "best friend to the bride." Of course doing that made the others think there was still room for an Maid/Matron of Honor…it never ends!

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2009

we aren’t have a maid of honor or a best man either!  i’m having 3 close friends as my bridesmaids while he has his two brothers & my brother as his groomsmen.  we just couldn’t decide & didn’t want to! 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

If I didnt have a sister to choose as a Maid/Matron of Honor then I dont think I would have chosen at all!  It’s your wedding! You choose or dont choose whatever you want!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Do what you want! If I didn’t have a sister, I don’t think I would be able to choose either! Weddings these days are becoming less and less about "what you have to do" and more of "what you want to do"!

Also, another suggestion of how to line them up is by alphabetical order. I have my only sister, who is my Maid/Matron of Honor, then it goes in alpha. order from there! Everyone understands and no one feels hurt!

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

I don’t have a maid of honor. I have been equally close to all my bridesmaids at different parts in my life and I didn’t want to pick one. I had paired up my girls my my fiance’s boys and so when he picked his order, they were lined up that way. I am happy with my decision but there have been a few wrinkles. Since nobody has been assigned, nobody thinks it is their job to give a toast. Also, fiance and I are organizing our bachelor/bachelorette parties ourselves for same reason. I am okay with this, I just thought I’d give you a heads up for things that might come your way.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

No Maid/Matron of Honor for me either! I have 6 girls (yikes!) who are equally special to me. I know a few would definitely be hurt if I chose one over another. I was thinking about what order to have them walk, so the height/alpha ideas are a big help! I don’t think it’s a huge deal; it’s really just a title and hopefully all the girls you choose will want to contribute just as much as if they had the title of Maid of Honor.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2009 - Small church ceremony with mountain-view log cabin reception

no Maid/Matron of Honor here either! Six Bridesmaid or Best Man, and they’re all close to me. The only problem is delegating Maid/Matron of Honor typical situations. I guess I’ll just split them up!

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

My fiance has a best man. Thats what made it easy for me to line them up, haha

Post # 16
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Newbee

i didnt have maid of honor. my best friend is out of the country and she couldnt make it to the wedding so i decided to just have 2 bridesmaids.

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