(Closed) No Maid of Honor…advise pls

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bumble bee

Maid of Honor is really just a title. Essentially your bridesmaids will do anything that your Maid/Matron of Honor would have done. It’s perfectly fine to not have a bachelorette if you don’t want to. Or if you just wanna get them all together for a small meal/drinks/fun time. It’s whatever you wanna do. 

Also, talk to them about the speeches. Who knows–maybe two of them hate public speaking, and the third will have been dying to do it! Ask them their preferences. If they can’t come to an agreement, there’s nothing wrong with having all three of them say something–but keep is very brief. Also, the speeches should come at the reception–not the ceremony.

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper

i was in a wedding once where the bride had only 3 BMs and no Maid/Matron of Honor. although somewhere along the line i became the Maid/Matron of Honor because i organized her shower and bachelorette and she asked me to give a toast.  for you, i think you could talk all three of them and see who would be most comfortable giving a toast – some people don’t like public speaking! or maybe they could do a combined one?

and i DEFINITELY think its ok not to have a bachelorette party! i didn’t!  and my sister is Maid/Matron of Honor, so she totally would have organized one, but i didn’t want one! i prefer organizing my own girls nights too!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Ok first off….if you choose not to have one that is your choice but i would have your college friend do it.  Just keep in mind you need one girl to be by you as much as possible since you can’t do it all yourself.  They don’t talk about you at the ceremony but at the reception. ๐Ÿ˜‰

You asked if ok NOT to have a bachelorette party.  Yes, but it can be fun and clean.  My one girlfriend we got all dressed up and went out to a great restraunt for dinner.  My other (whom is my Matron of Honor) had her’s at a Mystery Dinner show.  We are all christians and the typical bachelorette going out and being stupid and getting drunk thing just really isn’t for us.  So I’m trying to come up with different ideas for that.

There are a TON of responsiblities for a Maid/Matron of Honor.

-help get you dressed day of wedding, keeping you sane and the toast and so much more.

-little odds and ends leading up to the day like going shopping with you, going to pick something up.

-going to bridal shows with you.

-going when you try on the dress.

the list goes on and on….

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I also have three bridesmaids and am not having one as a Maid/Matron of Honor. I think this is becoming a lot more common and is totally acceptable.

First of all, if you don’t really want a bachelorette party, don’t have one. I think it would be fine to plan your own if you do want one, but it’s not a MUST. I personally am just going out to dinner with my bridesmaids as one of my BMs, my fiance’s sister, is only 17 and obviously can’t go “out” anywhere with us. 

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