Post # 1
My invitation read: We have reserved __ seat (s) in your honor.
__ / __ can attend
__/ __ cannot attend
In addition, it included “please join us for an adult-only reception”
We have received the following calls and responses:
– 2 /1 can attend (what kind of MATH is that?!)
– “Hey, the invite says 2, but we were planning on bringing our kids”
– “We will both be in attendance, not sure about Julian just yet.. he’s loving college” (mind you Julian was NOT invited!!!
I didn’t think I could have been more clear on the invitations. This is TRULY a headache!!!!!!
Post # 3
That is so frustrating! I’m sorry! Are these people that you can approach and blatantly say NO CHILDREN
Post # 4
One is a groomsman, so it will be tough to do , but it was CLEARLY written on the invitation!! Mind you he has FOUR children, not just one!
Post # 5
I seriously don’t understand this. Never in my life had I imagined that people were so ignorant until I started reading posts like these on here. I am scared to have to deal with this whenever I get married!!!! I don’t think you could’ve been any more clear but people STILL don’t get it. What I would like to know is, are people really so oblivious and ignorant to etiquette rules or do they just think that you should or would want to make an exception for them??? How ridiculous either way.
Post # 6
Just say something along the lines
“Due to limited space inour venuse we are requesting adults only”
That is my story and I’m sticking to it!! We are doing adult ceremony and reception
Post # 7
I think it goes beyond etiquette and simply into RESPECT! We have a set amount of space and gave you ample time, notice, and clarity as to who was invited.. yet people still feel free to do what they want. It’s so discouraging, because I did SO much research and put so much thought into how I could best word this so that I didn’t have to deal with it. Luckily, these have been the only 3 instances so far and I hope that it ends!
Post # 8
Not to be a PITA but some people a. might think hey ill throw it on there, the worst they can say is no (not thinking the stress is causes the B&G) or b. they are just that oblivious…
Were doing an adult reception as well… Ive already told our cousins a head of time… so there wont be surprises when the invites do go out…
Post # 9
Okay now I’m feeling ignorant (I clearly haven’t been invitation shopping yet)…
___/___ cannot mean?
I mean, I know what can/cannot means, obviously, but why are there two lines and a slash next to both responses?
Post # 10
@lezlers: I think it’s for 1/2 can come and 1/2 can’t come. The the second line is always for the total number of seats reserved so they can say how many out of the reserved seats can & cant’ come.
Post # 11
@lezlers: She’s intending it like 1 / 2 or 1 out of 2 invited guests. I’m not sure if she filled in the total or left it up the invitees, I’ve seen brides go both ways!
EDIT: oops! looks like KatNYC2011 beat me to the punch! 😉
Post # 12
Ah, I get it, thanks!
Whew, now I won’t look like a total dumbass when it’s time to order invitations…
Post # 13
I filled it in so there were three instances on the invite.
It read, we have reserved 1 seat in your honor.
_ / 1 can attend
_ / 1 cannot attend
maybe they added 1 + 1 and got 2 LMAO
Post # 14
My best friend just got married and she had this exact same problem. I am definitly not looking forward to RSVP time….
She ended up giving in because it was mostly close family and friends….but she had trouble deciding to let it go!
I hope it all works out for you!!!