Post # 1
OK so this might sound silly but it is starting to bother me a little. My bridesmaids haven’t even mentioned throwing a shower or a bacherolette party or anything. Our wedding is 2 months away. When did you brides find out about any events that were planned for you?
I hate suprises. Do you think it would be tacky for my groom to mention something to them? I am thinking something like "We are getting close to the wedding and our calandar is quickly filling up. Do you want me to make sure Bride doesn’t plan anything for certain dates?"
Post # 3
Hmm. Are you sure they know that they’re supposed to organize these things? Do you have a female friend not in the bridal party who could maybe talk to your BMs about it – something like, "Are you throwing a shower for J? I want to make sure I’m free that weekend…"
Post # 4
Yeah, I’m guessing they might not know you want them to throw one.
Technically, they don’t have to anything except show up at the wedding, so it’s definitely not required that they do it. Do you really need one? If you are absolutely set on having one, then I’d do what amysue suggested and have a mutual friend ask.
Post # 5
They know. I am one of the last to get married in our group of friends. We had a talk way back when I got engaged about how my family doesn’t talk to me and they will not be doing anything. They said they wanted to do that for me and I haven’t heard a word since. It is so discouraging because they know this wedding has been one battle after another for me.