Post # 1
I am having a rather small wedding party, just three of my friends. However, I really don’t want to pick a Maid/Matron of Honor. I don’t think that anyone would be offended if I did, but each of the women have been important to me in very different areas of my life and I don’t want to pick one to be the Maid/Matron of Honor over the others, they are all pretty equal in my life.
Is this odd?
Post # 3
It’s not odd. I think it’s more and more common to not have a Maid/Matron of Honor. My Fiance isn’t having a best man.
Post # 4
You don’t have to have one.
Post # 5
I did this. I had 2 bridesmaids, my sister and a friend. I had my sis sort of take the role of Maid/Matron of Honor, by taking her place in the line up and having her sign the marraige certificate. The only slightly anoying parts were that non of them really took charge in planning a bacholarette, so I didn’t get one. In the end it doesn’t really matter though. I decided not to have a Maid/Matron of Honor because I felt like this ment picking who was more important to me, and I just couldn’t do it. They both play important roles in my life.
Post # 6
I have no clue what I will do for my bachorlette, I might just plan it myself since only 2 of my girls live in the area and I want a bigger group so I might just invite a bunch of my guy friends and go on a pub crawl or something like that.
It is nice to know that I am not the only one without a Maid/Matron of Honor.
Post # 7
Haha I was so worried about this I gave them all titles. Matron of honor/gaytron of honor: the two married folk Maid of honor/gay of honor: the two single folk and My super-awesome-soon-to-be-little-sister-maid my Fi’s younger sis.
Post # 8
@Day_In_The_Life: That’s exactly what I am doing – 3 Bridesmaid or Best Man, no Maid/Matron of Honor. I didn’t want to choose
Post # 9
I had 2 BMs (both my sisters) and neither were Maid/Matron of Honor. It was fine.
Post # 10
I have 5 Bridesmaid or Best Man….no maid of honor. They are all important to me and I wouldn’t know how to choose.
Post # 11
its really up to you what you want and i dont think taht its weird not to have a Maid/Matron of Honor at all
Post # 12
I don’t think that is odd, I don’t plan on having one either, I respect all of them equally. When positions come into play sometimes it goes to their head and either they feel like it is their show or they don’t have to do anything because they are boss. I don’t have time for that so all of them will be on a equal playing field.