- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 2014
I need some impartial advice on my Bridesmaid/MOH situation –
Firstly I have 3 beautiful sisters that I see quite often but have different relationships with, I am extremly close with my youngest sister and we get along like best friends. For a long time I had my bridesmaids chosen in my head but never said anything to anyone as I didn’t want to jump the gun and when It was brought up by my sisters they were obviously hurt that I didn’t want to ask them to be my b.ms at the start. So Now i’ve asked all three of them to be b.ms as well as two of my closest friends which I thought they happy but now my oldest sister is being really difficult about every choice or ideas I put ther way.
Firstly I told them that our theme was woodland/rustic and a lot of natural elements which is how my partner and I are and I wanted them wear dresses that were for an outdoor setting with specific details (e.g color range, fabric etc) so it would suit them and they would love wearing it, I wanted them to choose what they wanted to wear. All of the ideas and pictures I’ve sent thru have had 3-4 word replies “don’t like…” “not hot enough” “I don’t like any” and its making me doubt my decision in asking all of them even though I want them to be apart of our special day.
She also told me she was my Maid/Matron of Honor even though I told her I didn’t want a Maid/Matron of Honor anymore because the person I actually wanted (my bestfriend) died a year and a bit ago and it feels wrong and too hard for me to replace her in the bridal party. (thats what it feels like if i let her be)
My sister also told me she didn’t want to do anything, or help with any details or throw any parties as she wasn’t good at any of that stuff and struggles to make decisions about things and would rather just be told what to do and me do everything! She included in the words bridezilla/demands/expectations after the 2nd email which only explained the concept/theme and then she explained that she only really wants the title of Maid/Matron of Honor – thats how she put it…
Anyway I’m at a loss in what to do, whether I let them know what is required of them when they commit to being a B.Ms or just leave it see what happens down the track – My friends and closest sister were just happy that I asked and will do whatever they can to help.
But my older sister and my other younger sister (but not as bad) are just staying how stupid and ugly they’ll look even though nothing as really been decided.
How do I tackle this one?! this is starting to be more stressful than I had hoped! x