Post # 1
Hey girls, I need some advice. I had originally asked my sister (only sister) to be my Maid/Matron of Honor (which really upset my best friend). Problem is that my sister is 18 and into herself and only herself. She doesn’t want to help with ANYTHING wedding related. She won’t even answer my calls or emails about anything that has to do with the wedding. When the girls came with me to try on wedding dresses, my sister spent the entire time taking pictures of herself in the mirro for Facebook and talking about how the mirror made her look so good! The problem is my best friend is doing everything the Maid/Matron of Honor should do but not getting the credit and it is not fair 🙁 I have told my family that I want to ask my sister to step down but they beg me not to and to be honest, if I asked her, she would probably say that she won’t be in it at all then. I really don’t know what to do! I am thinking of saying we will have no Maid of Honors and No Best Mans (since my fiance cant choose between his brothers). Maybe I can tell my sis that since he cant choose one, we gotta be even. Please help me!
Post # 3
I didn’t have a Maid/Matron of Honor, I didn’t want to choose between my sisters. One held my bouquet/stood closest in the ceremony, and the other signed our certificate. Darling Husband had a best man. You don’t need to name anyone Maid/Matron of Honor and it doesn’t sound like your sister is up to the task anyway. I don’t know if you can remove the title once you’ve given it – you could possibly just stop using it and if she ever asks just say “oh we decided not to worry about titles, you are all important to us” or something like that! If she is 18 I’m not sure she’d understand the significance so I don’t know if it’s worth the drama.
Post # 4
She’s 18 and full of herself. I don’t know how old you are but do you act now like you did when you were 18? She will grow out of it and I think if you ask her to step down it’s only going to cause more problems. My Maid/Matron of Honor is my cousin and she is 17 and can’t do much; my aunt is basically doing everything but does that mean I’m going to ask my cousin to step down? no.
Post # 5
We probably won’t have a MOH/Best Man either. I don’t want to choose between my friends/sister, and my guy doesn’t want to either. I think it’s a great idea because I’ve honestly never liked feeling like there’s a “favorite” friend, whether it’s been me or not.
Post # 6
You could have two MOHs instead of asking her to step down. One of my friends is doing that with her two sisters.
Post # 7
Why can’t you have MAIDS of honor? That way nobody has to choose, and you can pass it off easily by saying your Fiance can’t choose between his brothers and therefore is going to have best MEN. Easy peasy, crisis averted.
Post # 8
i think asking her to step down would just upset her. my friend just got married and had her sister as her moh. her sister is very bitter about life, she’s older, and she never had a boyfriend. so she wasn’t interested in anything and didn’t do anything, another girl did. of course my friend was mad at her sister, and i actually think she just made her moh b/c she felt she had to, but it caused way less drama in the family that way. i like the idea of having 2 moh’s. that way your friend will get credit for the work she’s doing.
Post # 9
I also like the idea of multiple MOHs. I have three girls, including my sister. I don’t want to differentiate, so my plan has been to just call them all “maids of honor” or all “bridesmaids.”