(Closed) No MOH or Best Man? HELP

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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1104 posts
Bumble bee

I didn’t have a Maid/Matron of Honor, I didn’t want to choose between my sisters. One held my bouquet/stood closest in the ceremony, and the other signed our certificate. Darling Husband had a best man. You don’t need to name anyone Maid/Matron of Honor and it doesn’t sound like your sister is up to the task anyway. I don’t know if you can remove the title once you’ve given it – you could possibly just stop using it and if she ever asks just say “oh we decided not to worry about titles, you are all important to us” or something like that! If she is 18 I’m not sure she’d understand the significance so I don’t know if it’s worth the drama.

Post # 4
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837 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

She’s 18 and full of herself.  I don’t know how old you are but do you act now like you did when you were 18?  She will grow out of it and I think if you ask her to step down it’s only going to cause more problems. My Maid/Matron of Honor is my cousin and she is 17 and can’t do much; my aunt is basically doing everything but does that mean I’m going to ask my cousin to step down? no. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

We probably won’t have a MOH/Best Man either.  I don’t want to choose between my friends/sister, and my guy doesn’t want to either.  I think it’s a great idea because I’ve honestly never liked feeling like there’s a “favorite” friend, whether it’s been me or not.

 

Post # 6
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617 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

You could have two MOHs instead of asking her to step down.  One of my friends is doing that with her two sisters.

Post # 7
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1830 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Why can’t you have MAIDS of honor? That way nobody has to choose, and you can pass it off easily by saying your Fiance can’t choose between his brothers and therefore is going to have best MEN. Easy peasy, crisis averted.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

i think asking her to step down would just upset her. my friend just got married and had her sister as her moh. her sister is very bitter about life, she’s older, and she never had a boyfriend. so she wasn’t interested in anything and didn’t do anything, another girl did. of course my friend was mad at her sister, and i actually think she just made her moh b/c she felt she had to, but it caused way less drama in the family that way. i like the idea of having 2 moh’s. that way your friend will get credit for the work she’s doing.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I also like the idea of multiple MOHs. I have three girls, including my sister. I don’t want to differentiate, so my plan has been to just call them all “maids of honor” or all “bridesmaids.”

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