(Closed) No Money, No Time, and I have no help from anyone!

posted 9 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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221 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

That sounds rough!

 The best wedding advice I’ve gotten is to list the three most important things you want from the wedding, and for your fiance to do the same. Concentrate on those things, and your happiness will be contagious. 

How many guest are you planning to have?

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I’m not sure where you are but if you live on the coast you can throw together a simple ceremony on the beach. Where I am Notary Publics can marry people and they are very easy to come by. Then you can go to a nice restaurant that may have a small private room for you. Since it sounds like it will be just close family and friends a nice intimate party would work. You can get a simple white dress off the rack or even a white evening gown. Then when you save up some money have a killer party and honeymoon. I hope this helps, and just remember you get to marry your best friend, at the end of the day thats all there is to it.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Hello!

I suggest putting together a restaurant reception. This can save money because you won’t have to find a caterer and rent glassware, flatware, etc, and many restaurants have nice decor and small reception rooms that can accomodate that many people on a short notice. You also probably won’t have to put down a deposit, and you won’t have to do much decorating because it’s not a "blank slate" type venue where you’d feel like you had to fancy everything up.

You could hold the ceremony at the beach, like someone else suggested, or at a local park or even at the local courthouse, depending on how many people you plan on having to the ceremony.

The bottom line: You can do it, and it will be beautiful! 

Good luck 🙂

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

Wow, your parents aren’t going?  I’m sorry.

Do you have your dress?  Bm dresses?  Do you know a time frame he might be home?  (Say he’ll get leave some time within the next year?)  If you are doing favors, you can do those ahead of time.  If you have silk flowers, you could do those ahead of time.  But even those would need to be kept in a safe place where they won’t get dusty or crunched.  you could look into an officiant to at least see how available they are on short notice. 

Will you try to just have it at your home? Or rent a venue?  If he gets leave in an off month, you’ll lbe in better shape in terms of price and availability.  Same with other vendors.  If you will be getting a lot of vendors, I would research them now, letting them know your situation and if they can accomodate short notice.  Also, if you can swing having the wedding on a day other than Saturday, that will be better with availability and cost.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I think a restaurant reception sounds like a great idea! Also, what if you save money on invitations by doing email invitations? With only 10 days notice you won’t have time to wait for the post office to send paper invites anyway. You can design the email invite now and get the email list ready, then blast it out the minute you know the date!

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I know how you feel…My fiance is currently in irag and just came up on orders for BNOC durinf our wedding day…fortunately he will get a break bc it is durring the holidays!!!

I say just inform everyone that you want there about the short notice that way they can be ready when you do put out a date!!! Look athosting something at a smaller hotel or nice restaurant….if you live in a military town they should be able to accomadate you all rather quickly because of the military. Or look at hostin something onbase at the NCO club or one of the Officers clubs..Hope this helps

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

How much money will you actually have to spend?

Things you can prepare ahead of time: 

  • Your dress
  • Dresses/attire of any attendants
  • Officiant (have friend or family member ordained online?)
  • Rings 
  • Vows/ceremony outline
  • Potential venue scouting

  • Restaurants: Get married and eat in the same place. Inquire about short notice parties and non-Saturday pricing. 
  • Your house or the house or backyard of family member or a family friend. Have a pot-luck reception.

  • Decor: Never underestimate the impact of balloons! They are cheap and festive. Also try to pick a setting that is pretty already and will not require a lot of decoration. 

Things you can do easily right beforehand: 

  • Flowers (make your own bouquet) 

Things you could do without:

  • Favors
  • Professional videographer
  • Invitations and save the dates (telephone guests? Or print invitations on your home comuter using a kit from Target etc.)
  • Giant fancy wedding cake

I’m uncertain how you could do a professional photographer, if one is in your budget. If one is not, perhaps you have a friend with a nice digital SLR camera who could take photos for you. Have your wedding during the daytime so you will have nice light. A lot of what makes a good photo is retouching and good light :). 

Good luck! 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

Wow lots of good advice already but I’d love to chime in.

The one single most important thing about a wedding day is the actual ceremony – whether it is 5 minutes at a courthouse or an hour in a church – this is the most important part of the day -it’s when you get married!!  I think you should definitely start there. It might be best/easiest for the two of you do go to the courthouse with two (or more) very special people with you as your witnesses. Then you can plan a "reception" for either later that same day or even over the next weekend. A Sunday brunch a few days later could be lovely and much less expensive!

Then, as mentioned above, you should focus on a few things that you really care about — is it food? photos? your dress? the guests?

Something you can do now is gather all the email addresses (because it doesnt seem like you’ll have enough time to send out invitations) and maybe use photoshop to create a "digital invitation" that is ready to go with all the details except the date. As soon as you know when he’ll be home — get to sending that email! 

Can I suggest that even though you "aren’t supposed to tell anyone" that you send out an marriage annoucement in the mail? You can use a picture from the wedding day and make it as beautiful as any regular invitation. I think that would be nice since your parents and most of your family won’t be there to let them know that you are happily married. 

Finally – when the time comes – come back to the Bees!!  Lots of people can help – your profile doesnt say where you are located but you would be so surprised at how much we are willing to help if we are able!

Post # 12
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Go to La Belle Weddings in Duluth. You can get all your flowers for $650 and they have affordable invitations. I got mine from there and printed w/ the envelope, for 100 I paid $60. They have the best deals

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Why does anybody have to know that you can’t afford it. Tell them its going to be a quick wedding since you never know if you FH is here or working somewhere else. Simple is romantic. Who cares how much you spend the point is for your families to join so you and become one with him. If your Bridesmaid or Best Man all have black dresses have them wear those. Mismatched dresses are in. Go to Hobby Lobby or your local craft store and ask them for tips on how to make your own bouquet. Fake Calla Lillies look real and are easy to just wrap ribbon around and go. Or go to Walmart or somewhere that sells vase flowers, cut them short and wrap floral tape around them, then ribbon. I did that for a wedding i helped with and the bride loved it! Candles are a great decoration. Decorating with fruit is popular too. Cupcakes instead of a wedding cake will save you money too.. Google Images for these things to get great ideas. GOOD LUCK!

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

You can so do this, and have gotten lots of great advice here!

 The bottom line is, whatever kind of a day it is–it’s still going to be your wedding day.  Choose the people whom you want to celebrate with, or as was suggested, have a small ceremony and dinner and plan a big shindig when you can prepare.

No one is going to think a wedding’s cheap if you planned it in 10 days!!  Everyone will be impressed you got anything together at all in that short of a time frame.

Tell vendors your story.  I’d imagine a lot of them would be willing to work with you, if on nothing else, at least on doing things last minute.  Maybe try to have a weeknight wedding to keep things affordable.

Let us know if we can help anymore!  HumarockBride is right…we bees stick together!

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I agree with Latte Love, "You can So do this"!!  Put a post on craigslist and explain your situation there are many great people out there who are willing to help you out sometimes you just have to ask. Depending on the size, many librarys and conference halls have small scale meeting rooms or large spaces they can rent out for a small fee.

Have a friend with a great house, as them if you can host the wedding at their house. Which would cut down on major costs!

Also this is where DIY comes in to big play. Also check out all of the different sales going on and hit the clearance sections at Target and stores like that. You will be amazed at what you find.

Have hope, some patience and some faith and you can do anything in a short time and make it stylisious

 

Wishing you the best of luck

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