- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2014
I just wanted to say that I do feel for you. I have NEVER had any real help from my mother, and my dad passed years ago… I have always paid for everything myself. My Fiance is the same way. What I think is worse for you is that you see what your father can and has done for your siblings. So it is not like he can’t help you, he just does not care to do so. What I will say is that money=control. Anytime you have been given money there have been conditions. I wonder what conditions will be placed on your wedding. The best part of paying for things yourself is the sense of accomplishment and being in charge of what you do with the funds 100%!
Also, boy do I wish I was working with that income… I would be balling out, haha! I managed to pay 1/5 or less of the typical American northeast wedding price. This was done with creativity and quite a bit of research until I found what would work for my budget. I find it hilarious when families get pissed regarding invitiations to weddings that they are not contributing a dime to. I don’t really care if the world is angry with me, I have to do what is best for me and my personal situation. Look around and see if you can do something off the wall or a bit unusual for the wedding. Maybe you could have a nice backyard wedding, have just the meat catered, and make the sides or have family or friends help make the sides (if they are willing) and do super affordable decor? I would go crazy waiting any longer (I will have been engaged 2.3 years by the wedding) so I can’t imagine waiting half a decade in total… Best of luck either way!