Post # 1
Okay, so I have been trying to plan some sort of small reception with absolutely no success. Venues are too much, catering is too much, everything is too much! My Fiance and I have very little to put towards a celebration. I have less than 1k for ~ 20 guests to make something happen. I don’t want to take a loan out (starting out as newlyweds with debt looming seems like a really bad idea) and neither of have family members contributing to our marriage. What am I going to do?
It should be a very happy time for us, and it is usually, but when I start trying to plan I feel like it is impossible and silly to even try with our budget. I’m embarrassed to invite people, knowing how inadequate it will seem. Everywhere I turn someone else is having a huge, extravagant wedding or worse, talking about their cheap 5-10k (That’s so much to spend on one night to me and its still way out of my budget!).
I have come to the conclusion, if I have a reception, it will have to be held at our apartment and entirely diy due to financial constraints. Has anyone else had a similar experience? Made something this small into something memorable? Pros/cons of their experience? Special ideas? Should I just can the whole idea and elope? I really need advice as I have no one helping me and I have never planned anything like this.
Post # 3
Have you looked into having it at a restaurant?
Post # 4
- Wedding: May 2012 - El Faro Convention center, Aguadilla, Puerto Rico
Don’t despair! if you really want to have a wedding reception it can be done.
Venue: Do you have any friends or family members that have a big house or backyard?
Catering: You could cook eveything with friends or family, have it be a putlock or have a dessert only, breakfast only or apps only menu.
@GroovyHippieChick: This is a brilliant idea! If there are only 20ish guests, find a rest. where you can all go to share a meal after the ceremony. I assume the 20ish people invited are close to you and are familiar with your financial situation. I’m pretty sure they won’t mind paying for their meal at a resteraunt. This is just what they did in the Sex and the City Movie!
Post # 5
If I were in your situation I would have a city hall ceremony with just our parents and then invite our closest family and friends out to a restaurant for a seated dinner to celebrate.
Post # 6
You could always look at having the ceremony at a park. There are several here that “rent” out larger areas for stuff like weddings and it doesn’t cost much, you just have to call the city and book it.
Some apartments or communities have some great common rooms that you can also use. There are several around here that are beautiful enought for a small wedding, if you don’t have one, maybe a friend of family member has a really nice one they would be willing to book for you.
Post # 7
1k you can def make it happen..theres tons of fire halls or community rooms to rent- most at 500 MAX, then you would get food- which you can easily do appetizers or lunch meats, have a picnic theme if you like which is more laid back.
here is a site that can give you ideas.http://www.eventective.com/USA/Florida/Gainesville/Wedding-Receptions.htm
.theres even a pool! how cool would that be to have a wedding by poolside and then be able to swim! A lot of places like pools would be a flat fee and then guests can pay for their own food at the snack bar area.
Resturant would also be nice- we have several buffet resturants in my area that have banquet rooms- most buffets are $35 tops, with 20 people you would be below your budget!
If you really want a wedding. dont elope – you can pull this off with your means!
Post # 8
My husband & I got married for less than 1k with around 20 guests including the bridal party.
We got married in a church so it was only 75 dollars & we held a small reception there as well.
For food my parents got party trays, the ones with mini burgers/slidders, ect! We also had my mother in law make home made candy, like chocolate covered pretzels, peanut butter balls. My mom also bought all kinds of cookies for like a cookie bar, dessert thing! Which was fairly cheap cause she bought them at walmart.
My dress was second hand bought by my mom but you can find beautiful dresses online for a few 100 or less!
The dollar tree has gorgeous vases for 1 dollar or online you can buy a 48 count for example, for 48 dollars! Or go there yourself and get how ever many you need. You can also get flowers there. Here are some examples:
Walmart makes cakes for like I think 40-60 dollars for a two tier cake to feed 50 or somewhere along those lines.
You can also make your bouquet or I have actually seen a beautiful white rose one at walmart. Also you can get your guest book and all of that from walmart.
I did my own hair & make up, so it was free. My husband’s jacket & vest came from a thrift store.
Here is a picture of us the day of: (My sister took our pictures for free.)
Post # 9
You can hire a community hall and have outside catering brought it, its usually much cheaper.
Post # 10
You can check the local VFW hall, Elks lodge, a park, anywhere like that for a cheap venue. Then go to Costco and buy a few platters of food – sandwiches, croissants, they even have shrimp cocktail platters that feed a ton of people for cheap!
Post # 11
btw, a sheet cake from Costco can feed an insane amount of people and it only costs $18!
Post # 12
oh yeah! Costco cake is YUMMY!!!
Post # 13
You could have a reception of just cake and punch. There are some awesome punch recipes out there!
Post # 14
my friend eloped. did a last minute wedding/eloped….bought white dress weekend of, flowers at harris teeter etc. wedding ceremony on beach. low key party at their apartment w/bottles and store bought cake only. i thought her wedding was beautiful! i only saw pictures of it that popped up on my facebook page the next day. it was that last minute! and i thought the last minute elopement was uber romantic!
what about a wedding on the beach, city hall, or church. those are all affordable / free/ donation-based options.
-you can do a champagne toast and cake only reception
-small dinner at home = you can host at your place, or ask friends if their condos have party rooms. my friend let me use her party room for an event and the rental fee was only $100 and it was a great space! then just get those fancy appetizers from costco or wholesale places.
-fancy restaurants where i live have free private rooms, too, maybe yours does the same. you just have to have a certain number in the party or meet a $ minimum.
Post # 15
You can do it! And you should not be ashamed of this. A casual “backyard” type get-together could easily be done for under $1,000 (with alcohol, even) but a restaurant is another good option. There are some non-chain Americana restaurants with private rooms that do parties and the food is very affordable where I am (big city in the Midwest). Also, you could even get your wedding-day attire included in that. Our Vegas wedding cost about $15k (not including the honeymoon) but I got my J. Crew dress for $60 on mega-sale, no alterations. My husband got two suits at JCPenney (tailored and everything) for like $300.
My advice would be choose something that suits you and that’s affordable and make it the best whatever-it-is it can be. Don’t try to have a tradtional reception on $1,000 and you’ll be fine. Outside the lines is OK!