Post # 1
Thanks for all of the love, support and kind words ladies, I really appreciate it. I have read every response but its taken me a while to be able to actually come back here and reply. Obviously it’s been hard dealing with all of this.
I found out when we were out with friends last Saturday night. We ended up meeting up at the end of the night and my friend gave me a hug and said something like have a great time in Hawaii and next time I see you, you will be a bronzed and engaged lady. He heard that an asked what she meant and it stated a whole conversation and he admitted that he had no intention of proposing in Hawaii and didn’t know why I would feel like he would…. Ummm, how about months of hinting that way?! Even telling my family that’s what his plan was?! As for the ring, he said he did pick out for me but hasn’t bought it yet. He said he just hasn’t gotten around to it. I guess he’s had no time in the entire year we have been discussing marriage??
So that’s about it. I can’t waste any more time with someone who doesn’t want me the way I want them but mostly, someone who would play with my heart that way. I feel heartbroken, lost, dumb and humiliated. No guy is worth making me feel that way!
Post # 4
@givemecouture: OH NO!! *tons of hugs*
Post # 5
I’m sorry : have you considered that maybe he’s just saying all that because he’s still trying to keep it a surprise? Don’t wanna give you false hope, but just a thought…
Post # 7
@Becs: he has been leading me on for a year, setting dates that come and go and never following through so we broke up so unfortunately not.
Post # 8
the last thing you should feel is humiliated! You should be really proud of yourself! You will get past this and come out a stronger woman for it. Keep your head up.
Post # 9
I just wanted to say that I am so proud of you! I think it would be one thing if he were honest and told you he was not quite ready yet but had picked out a ring etc. but to blatantly lead you on is not really the sign of a quality person. I know it is hard but I think you definitely did the right thing. I know it will be difficult, but just think with each day that passes, you will be that much closer to meeting someone who will be honest with you, and excited to be with you, and to begin a life with you. Until then, be kind to yourself – do what YOU want, and indulge whenever you can. It will only get better from here!
Post # 10
I’ve never commented before, but I have seen your story and I am really sorry at what the outcome was. You deserve someone wonderful who will be upfront with you and want to marry you. I’m sorry this guy wasn’t it, but you will find him!
Post # 11
I’m sorry you’re going through this. You sound like such a strong, together woman. You deserve better!
Post # 12
I am not going to say every cliche that is available for this kind of situation, however I do want to say that we are so PROUD of you for walking away. It takes a very strong person to end things, and you will look back and realize that it was the right choice. Take some time to take care of YOU, and before you know it, you may just meet the One. ::Hugs::
Post # 13
@givemecouture: I know it hurts right now, lots, I’ve been there, I’m sure we all have. but, trust me, it will get better. your only down , not out! Remember to take care of you, go for massages, manicures, do it for you, only you. Smile each morning & take the day with a grain of salt.
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@givemecouture: I’ve been thinking about you! Thanks for updating…you are a strong ass woman and should be with someone who knows and appreciates your fabulousness!
Post # 16
@givemecouture: Been thinking about you, too! Thanks for updating and I hope you’ll check in from time to time.
You know if he’s ok with you moving out he definitely isn’t the right man for you. If he loved you the way you’re worth being loved he wouldn’t let you go. He’s an idiot.